Post # 91
It’s about 70% change, 30% keep in our social circles, with a good overlap of women who kept their maiden as a middle name, hyphenated, or still go by maiden name professionally/legally but married name socially. Most married/are marrying in the late 20s-mid 30s, liberal, graduate school educated, and living in larger cities. There are no social expectations one way or another. I will probably change after we have kids, but it may be more difficult to do for professional recognition purposes. We’ll see!
Post # 92
It just depends on who’s in your social circle. I’m a professor, and not one of my friends in academia changed their names. I went to a rural high school, and everyone I know from there who has gotten married has changed their names. I’ll be keeping mine.
Post # 93
I changed mine. I was 27 when I got married. I like my husband’ last name BAKER because I am a true baker at heart so it couldn’t have been more perfect.
Post # 94
I didn’t change my name and neither did anyone in my social circle. We all live in a large city, are in our mid-30s and have professional careers.
Post # 95
ClaudiaKishi: UK here. I first married at 19 (!) and kept my name. It was unusual but not unheard of. There wasn’t any disapproval. I am going to be married again in June and will again be keeping my name. It’s interesting that when women ask me if I’m changing my name and hear I’m not, about half of them say they would have preferred not to. The majority of women do still change their names, some in professions use their maiden name for work and their husband’s name professionally.
Even though it is normal here, it just never felt natural for me to change my name. When booking rooms or tables I may use Mr & Mrs His Name because it’s quicker and easier.