(Closed) Name-Changing Nightmare? How much of a pain in the a$$ is it?

posted 5 years ago in Names
Post # 3
1134 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

following! Ill have to do all this in a few months! 

Post # 4
427 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It was really simple for me (I just changed my last name). Best is to get the SS card done first because you tend to need that before you can change anything else.  I don’t have a passport so I’m not sure how hard that is.  To change my name on my bank account all I had to do was bring in my marriage certificate and they did it.

I’ll also add that since I have the same work hours as all government offices I did my SS card through the mail.  You just mail them the proper paper work and your original marriage certificate and they’ll mail it back when finished.

Post # 5
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

From this site:

Update your social security card
Renew your driver’s license
Change personal banking information
Change your credit card information
Update home/auto/life insurance policy
Change your telephone information
Contact all utility companies
Inform your employer/payroll department
Update health insurance and 401k account
Send notification to local post office
Update gym membership
Renew library card
Update mortgage or lease info
Contact schools and alumni associations
Update voter registration information
Change your email address (if applicable)
Renew passport
Update magazine subscriptions
Update social media profiles
Request change of school or work ID
Buy new business cards
Buy new address labels
Update personal/business email signature
Update LinkedIn profile
Make changes to your beneficiary information
Inform CPA or tax accountant if deciding to joint file
Update car registration coverage

Post # 6
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I just did this and by just did I mean I have done all of the below and still have a few things left to change.  Def agree with PPs who have said do Social Security card first.  You’ll need that if your marriage certificate doesn’t say your new name on it.  Be prepared to get to the SS Office right when it opens and still have to wait about an hour.  It takes about 10 days to get the card but they give you a letter with “confirmation” that you can show people which will have your new name on it.  The bank was satisfied with that little confirmation paper.

You have to wait 48 hours after you register with SS to go to the DMV (I went to AAA office and it was way faster, they process it like a “duplicate” license).  They mean a full 48 hours so if you go at 3 pm on Monday, don’t go to the DMV on Wednesday at 10 am and expect it to work.  They won’t be able to process it until it is verified by social security.  

I had to do an expedited passport because we’re leaving on our honeymoon in August.  If you’re going on your honeymoon right after the wedding, don’t book the tickets in your new name.  I booked mine in my new name so I have to get the passport before I go or I can’t fly!  

We went to the bank to open a joint account and deposit our checks and they changed my name when we went.  (Bank of America was surprisingly easy to work with on all of this, even with people using all different names on the checks and even spelling our name wrong).  I called my credit card company and they did the name change over the phone!  

I had to update a lot of stuff for work and they needed a copy of the marriage certificate and my new social security card and I had to fill out new tax forms.  

Also for health insurance–you should evaluate which plan is better, yours or DH’s.  In our case, I can go on DH’s plan for FREE and right now I am paying $240 per month for my health insurance from work!  Marriage counts as open enrollment so you should definitely investigate that.

Definitely send me a message or post here if you have questions!

Post # 7
7271 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m in the process of doing this right now. It definitely varies by state.

I went and applied for my new SS on Friday at 1pm and went and got my new license on Saturday at 10am even though my new name was not on my marriage certificate. For this reason, I would suggest looking for Bees in your state for advice as some of the things that other PPs have said have not been true for me (I’m in Ohio now with a marriage certificate from Wisconsin).

As for almost everything else- I did it all online. It wasn’t too difficult. It took about 4 hours total (including waiting in lines) and all of our government offices (and bank) are open on part time on Saturdays so that was helpful.

I’m assuming you guys have already taken care of your health insurance since you got married in October? Otherwise you will have to wait for open enrollment to change this as you only have 30 days after you marriage to change it (in most cases).

SS card- an hour waiting in line. Needed the application, birth certificate. marriage certificate, and DL (used one with my maiden name on it)

DL – $25 (in Ohio). Waited about half an hour. Needed birth certificate and marriage certificate. I did NOT need my new social security card and I got it less than 24 hours after applying for my new social security card.

Passport – have never had one so I will need to apply for one for the honeymoon. Darling Husband got his for the first time though this weekend and it took about an hour, $140, his birth certificate and DL. 

Bank/Financial accounts: We went in the day after and opened a joint account with my maiden name. As soon as I get my SS I will go in and change the name.

Health insurance: Changed via work (within 30 days)

Car insurance: Changed online

Car title: You do not change your name on your car title. Only your registration (which I did when changing my DL name for $4.50).

Post # 8
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It’s really not that bad.  I didn’t finish the process out of sheer laziness, but it’s not hard.

1. Take marriage certificate to SSA; wait for the card in the mail.  Takes about 1.5-2 weeks.  The SSA visit took about 20 minutes.

2. Take new SSA card and other documentation to the DMV.  This takes a few hours.

3. Go to the post office and mail appropriate documents to the passport agency; takes 6-8 weeks during peak times, less during less busy.

4. Go to the bank with marriage certificate and new DL; this should take 10 minutes.

5. Everyone else usually takes mailed photocopies of the marriage certificate.  Don’t forget school records if you hve them.

Wedding websites always make it seem like this really long list of stuff, but most of that stuff you don’t have to worry about.  I still go by my original name professionally, so I didn’t update my university records or LinkedIn.  Facebook took 2 second to do.  I did have to buy new business cards.  I didn’t bother with the alumnae association or my magazines or anything like that.  The mail still gets here.

Post # 9
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I got married last year in June and by December I had everything done.

I did the SS card, went to the SSA office early in the morning so there was little wait. Then a few weeks later I took a day off to get my driver license ID changed, I think it was $25. As soon as my ID came in the mail I changed my info at work, which conveniently they contact my health insurance so I did not have to. Then I changed my name on my phone bill and various online accounts. Then I changed my credit cards by calling each. Some wanted me to mail a name-change form and photocopy of my ID, some just changed it without any kind of proof. Last thing I did was change the passport, since I was not planning on travelling at all. That cost $110 (cost of a renewal) but the cost was more annoying to me because I had renewed an expiring passport only 2 years before.

Post # 10
31 posts
  • Wedding: April 2014


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