(Closed) names on invites

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery

I like the idea I saw Miss. Creampuff so which was
Mrs. Jane and Mr. John Doe 🙂
But if my only options are the two above I like Mr. & Mrs. John Doe.

Post # 4
17 posts
  • Wedding: October 2008

We are having a relativly informal wedding, so I am writing first names.  As in: John and Jane Doe.  I don’t like the idea of addressing something with only the man’s name, but that is another subject all together…

Post # 5
202 posts
Helper bee

mr. and mrs. john doe for us


mr. john smith and mrs. jane doe


we listed the male first, even though etiquette says to list the woman first. i suppose it depends on the culture, but i would have been fine listing either way.



Post # 6
508 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

For our save the dates, anyone sharing a last name were Jane and John Doe, but for the invites we’re going with Miss Cream Puff’s fabulous suggestion.

I’m taking my FI’s last name, but I REFUSE to think of my future married self as Mrs. HisFirst OurLast and will not refer to other people that way either.  As for listing the woman’s name first, it’s fine to mix it up.  Etiquette states that the woman’s name goes first, but if the male is your primary invitee, that makes more sense to me.  Of course, in going with Miss Cream Puff style wording, I’ve already broken with etiquette, so perhaps there’s no hope for me.

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