Names on RSVPs?

posted 1 year ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

We used invisible ink (with built in black light)  and numbered the back and each number was IDed in a spreadsheet.  The only person who didn’t fill our their name, however, was my smartass friend who helped us assemble/number the invites and knew she was assigned a number!

Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

We put on our rsvp: 

We, ______________________

___ accept with pleasure

___ decline with regrets

It worked, everyone put the name of every attendee. We decided not to put the name since some decided not to bring their children and other decided to bring their +1 or just come alone.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I did the number system (teeny numbers on the back). It worked well.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Vineyards

I pre-printed all of mine with their names for our engagement party and will do the same for the wedding. Another reasoning for this was so that guests know exactly who is invited and who is not. ie. no children or dates

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

anniebecalm :  Get a UV light or blacklight pen to number the RSVP cards.

That way no one will see it unless they put a black light to it! You can get both a blacklight flashlight and the pens from Amazon!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I just filled out an RSVP card for my cousin’s wedding and they had a small “4” on the back so they went with numbering the cards.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

We put the names of those invited. Two reasons. It made sure we knew who the invite was from and there was none of this “we’ll I’m bring my 26 nephews.”

No one said anything and we had no issues.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

What new madness is this?? I am genuinely interested in why the need for secret numbers and invisible ink?? What is wrong with putting someone’s name??

Oh I am fascinated….. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

jillsgills :  if you don’t write guest names on the RSVPs, some guests won’t do it either, so you get back an RSVP and have no idea who it’s from.  If you number the cards it’s easy to work out.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

I didn’t know this was a thing and I got 3 no-name RSVPs out of about 65 invited guests. Luckily I was able to figure out who they were based on deductive reasoning of where the RSVPs were postmarked from and the number of guests (I had guests from around the country). 

In retrospect I should have numbered the cards. I wouldn’t have wanted to fill in names, because leaving the line blank allowed people with +1s to tell me their dates’ names, and couples or families where some but not all invited guests could attend to indicate who was attending, etc. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

We numbered the back of our RSVP Cards (with just regular pen).  I’m glad we did because we had 4 no name and 3 we couldn’t read the handwriting.  I didn’t fill in names because multiple people were bringing plus 1’s that I didn’t know the spelling of their name, so I left it for them to fill in.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

KiwiDerbyBride :  Oh I get that. I just don’t understand why you don’t put their names on it instead of a number or best yet, invisible ink. There was a suggestion it was ‘too forward’ to put their name on it which I can’t comprehend! Instead a code system has to be deployed… xx

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I had done the RSVP envelopes with return address labels for who would be sending in the RSVP. This way if someone didn’t fill in their name I just had to look at the return address, and it saved people from having to write in their return address. I could also see who replied before opening the card which was exciting for me

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