Post # 61
jannigirl : The issue I have with this way of thinking about names is that some names that appear to be “typical Americanized” names may be actually cultural names and the misspelling is an attempt to best mimic either the pronounciation or spelling in the language of that culture.
For example, my name is pronounced (to first approximation – Americans actually can’t pronounce it correctly) the same way a very common American name is pronounced. It’s spelled differently because in my language “X” does not exist. So my parents transliterated the name from our language. My dad’s name used to be spelled differently from a common Americanized version of the name because we have a letter/sound that doesn’t exist in English and he tried to create that sound with English letters. Eventually he gave up since people couldn’t pronounce or spell his name correctly and changed the spelling. My mother’s name uses a ‘y’ where commonly the American version uses an ‘i’. The correct pronounciation is subtely different from the American version, but American’s don’t pronounce it correctly and probably just think she misspelled her name. Same with my grandfather.
My family is white so we don’t look like we’re from a different culture, and it probably looks like we have “unique” names because we wanted to be special. But in reality our names are cultural.
Finally, maybe we shouldn’t be worried about parents of kids with ‘weird’ names but instead be worried about how bad the parents of children who beat up those kids are. Because if you’ve raised a bully then you’re a bad parent.
Post # 62
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
blondie603 : It’s actually a non-english origin namethat I belive oriignates form India. I’ve encountered the name before and it it usually a name given by non-American parents who don’t realize what it means in English
Post # 63
I’m from the U.S., SoCal to be more precise and while my first and middle names are fairly common, they are spelled in Spanish, as I am hispanic on both sides of the family. I always have people spell my name in the English version which I usually ignore because I just don’t really care enough to correct them for an honest mistake.
However, I did once have an extremely rude comment about the spelling of my name. A gentleman I worked with (separate office building but sister company) called to ask why his email to me was saying “undeliverable”. Our emails are our first name at *insert company domain here*. I explained he was spelling my name incorrectly and gave him the correct spelling. No harm, no foul. That is until he goes, “WHAT? Did your mom not know how to spell?!” Now aside from how rude that response was, my mother had also passed away a year prior and I was still senstive about aything to do with her. It took everything in me to keep my cool. I ended up telling him, “Actually, my LATE mother did know how to spell. My name is spelled in Spanish, my family’s native language”. Crickets on the other end of the phone. Then an embarrassed apology and quick hang up.
Post # 64
- Wedding: April 2016 - Gorse Hill, Surrey, UK
dublingirl : I get it if you were born in Ireland or had Irish heritage and your name was spelt like that then thats cool, but if you had no connection to the Irish spelling and you lived somwhere that it wasnt the usual way to spell it, then I find it odd your parents would choose that variation.
Some of the names that have been mentioned here are just bizarre though!
Post # 65
bellabobies : in response to the name “Issabel” – I actually support this spelling. I know some people who named their kid that. Why? Because they HATE the nickname Izzy and hate the full name pronounced as Izz-a-bell. So in a way to me this was smart. When I do encounter an Isabel, I am honestly never sure how the person pronounces it – with a Z or S. So I ALWAYS ask. At least this spelling takes that “issue” away..
Post # 66
knotyet : This!!! I often think that people misspell my name to the more common spelling as a form of punishment, especially people who have known me a long time. Some will intentionally mispronounce it. Phoenetically it is pronouced the exact same as the North American spelling. It’s like they are thinking “that unique spelling is so dumb, I’m going to intentionally mess it up to point out how dumb it is”.
I didn’t choose the spelling of my name
Post # 67
I don’t like it – especially when people insert the unnecessary “y” in place of another vowel. Like Wynter instead of Winter …. not only does it look like a typo, but shouldn’t that be pronounced WHINE-TER, not WINTER anyway? Whatever …. to each their own, I guess! My kid has a very boring, traditional name and I’m sure lots of people don’t like it either.
Post # 68
I cannot stand it. Examples i have seen: Rebekkah, Maddisyn, Kamryn, Jessykah, Jorja. These are all ridiculous. I do not understand why parents think it is okay to set their child up for a lifetime of correcting the spelling. Also, it just looks so tacky. The worst i have heard is Ra-A…. pronounced Radasha.
Post # 69
So… I will openly admit that I judge parents based on the names they give their children.
I hate to say this but I find class has a lot to do with the names and also spellings of the names.
Also being a teacher, I knew what type of parent to expect at parents evening if the child’s name was Destiny. 95% of the time I was correct.
Post # 70
Maybe instead of complaining about a name choice made by others, people could work on not discriminating against someone just because of their name.
Post # 71
MeandYou : So, you judge people based on class but you hate to admit it. Got it.
Post # 72
I prefer not to be thought of as a dyslexic, so no thank you. (No offence intended to actual dyslexic people!)
Post # 73
I’m a teacher too and I hate ‘unique’ spellings of names. It is often something that bogans do (for non-Australians, the equivalent is sort of like ‘uneducated’ ‘white trash’, but it’s a little more affectionate and varied).
Spelling a name differently doesn’t make it unique, it makes it silly, and annoying for the person having the name to constantly spell it.
Post # 74
As a person with a uniquely spelled name, I say don’t do it. My parents had an ethnic name for me in mind (and I love my ethnic name) but they decided to just added a “y” to make my name it “American.” Great except that according to English speakers, my “American” name is “misspelled.”
I never was picked on or anything but how I wished growing up that they had just conformed and spelled my name the American way so I had a “normal” name. As a kid, I wished I could get souvenirs when on vacation (I never thought about the fact that if they just stuck with an ethnic name, I couldn’t get a souvineer either). As an adult now, hate having to correct people on the spelling of my name. When I got my own car insurance, I never noticed that my AAA agent spelled my name incorrectly and it caused some confusion when got into my first accident that year. Most recent name annoyance: I got a wedding check from an AUNT with my name spelled incorrectly.
Post # 75
My name is a very common 1970’s girl name that also happens to be a noun. My name is spelled exactly like it the noun is in the dictionary, the way people spelled it properly in the 70s before all of this randomization started. I always have to spell it, and I say, “Just like it is in the dictionary,” but no one even gets what I’m saying.