Naming baby before birth

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Post # 46
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Blushing bee

We picked out 2 names while I was pregnant, and 99.99% decided on one being the top choice, but kept them both very secret. The reason being is that they were family influenced names that were very important to us. As morbid as this sounds, I was not willing to “waste” the name by sharing it publicly and then god forbid something goes wrong, that name would be off the table for future babies. Same applies to another pregnancy in the future. We 100% know a girls name, and a few ideas for a boys name, but I would never call the pregnancy by that babies name.. because I would selfishly want to use it again in the event something happened. I think our parents may have known the name ideas, but no one beyond that and it was definitely not a public thing. 

We called him” baby almond” until he was here breathing and okay and then we announced the name. 

The names we picked mean too much emotionally tied to family that I am not chancing “wasting” them, even though that is sad to think about. If we had a stillborn or situation that needed a name for a birth and death certificate, I feel like we would have sadly used a burner name and not the family name we’re holding on to. 

ETA: My pregnancy was very high risk, and my mom had a ton of fertility issues. And a close friends brother had just delivered a baby at 24 weeks that lived 2 days, and it was named after their grandfather. For me, it was not necessarily a happy time being pregnant, and even the shower was hard to celebrate because I was so damn scared. I couldn’t bring myself to celebrate this particular baby and his name (someone mentioned monogrammed items at the shower) when I knew that even into the 3rd trimester there was still SUCH a high chance of it going south. We agreed early on we would not announce until he was here, alive, healthy, safe. 

Post # 47
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Before the birth, we called the baby Cletus (the fetus).

And while we had likely names chosen, we did reserve the right to change the name when we met the baby, so we never told anyone the name until the baby was born. It can definitely happen where the name doesn’t “match” the child!

Post # 48
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Busy bee

I think most people have their ‘favourites’ for either gender (I was strongly team Green) but it can all change when you actually meet the baby. I personally find it weird if you tell people what you’re calling them before they’re born safely but each to their own

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