Post # 1
I’m not even TTC yet, but I’ve noticed several women in my field have mentioned they have a nanny. I grew up with a stay at home mom and the idea of having someone else take care of my children feels almost wrong to me. I don’t know what I’ll do when the time comes, but I was hoping to get some thoughts from the bees. How do you feel about nannies?
Post # 3
Nannies are used around the globe. They are absolutely acceptable, it just depends on what your family situation is like.
Personally, if I were to go back to work,and get a nanny, it wouldn’t be worth it, because my pay would go towards her. But even if I could make an extra 50k or even 100k a year after paying out the nanny, I don’t think I would do it. I am obsessed with my son though, and love having every single moment I can with him, absorbing his energy, exploring the world through his eyes. No amount of money is worth that to me. But like I said, everyone is different.
Post # 4
A nanny is the best form of child care, IMO. Unfortunately, they are also very expensive. I don’t have a problem with someone else taking care of my child while I am at work.
With a nanny, the child has a steady attachment figure around on a daily basis. This is what is important for a young child. It doesn’t have to exclusively be mom.
Post # 5
I think it all depends on what role you allow the nanny to take on. I was a nanny for a family for over 5 yrs and it was wonderful! But I worked for a wonderful family too – I was the caregiver of the children while the parents worked, but they were still the parents! When they came home from work the mother would go over the children’s homework and took a very active role in their lives. I never felt like I was taking over the mother role as I sometimes feel can happen when people hire nannies.
If a woman is in a position where they would like to return to work and are able to hire a nanny I think that is best choice. I know the children I cared for I loved SO much and treated them as I would my own which is what any mother wants from their caregiver.
Post # 6
I was a Stay-At-Home Mom who had a nanny three days a week so I could take of errands and appointments without having to drag two babies around. It completely saved my sanity and allowed me to focus completely on my kids without a lot of stress. When they were little babies, we would take our nanny on vacation with us too.
If you can afford the help, definitely take it. Having a nanny take care of your child while you work means you can come home and spend quality time instead of having to clean the house and pick up toys (some nannies will double as housekeepers-bonus:)
And my kids still have fond memories of their nannies. And I do too.
Post # 7
@nona49: Does daycare seem wrong to you too? A lot of families can’t afford to have one parent stay home so they have to rely on outside help. I agree with AprilJo2011, nannies are the way to go, if you can afford it.
I had a nanny when I was younger. She came to our house everyday and watched me there. We would go to the park, the mall, out to lunch, etc. These are all things that you don’t get with daycare.
I’m not a parent, nor am I planning on being one anytime soon but when that time does come, I will be staying home. The only issue that I have with childcare is the cost. Even daycare is astronomical so for us, it makes the most sense for me to stay home.
Post # 8
I think if you can afford a nanny there is nothing wrong with having one. I personally would prefer to stay at home with my children if possible, but that day has not come yet 🙂 But between a nanny and preschool I would choose preschool. I was always against preschools, cause my mom stayed home with me. But I went to school to be a preschool teacher and I think it is wonderful for children….again, if you can afford it.
Post # 9
I was a nanny for the past 8 years, but I personally wouldn’t hire one as I would rather stay home with the baby. There is nothing wrong with hiring a nanny though as any good nanny treats their charges like their own, but they don’t overtake the mom role. The imprint a nanny makes on a child’s life is huge. Tears have been shed on both sides whenever I had to leave a position. It’s unlike any other job, and I still keep in touch with the families I worked for. No matter how professional a nanny you are, it’s hard to not get attached to the kids.
If you need childcare for your kids and can afford it, it is one of the best investments a parent could make.
Post # 10
I don’t think having a nanny is wrong. However, the couples need to go over the pro and con of having nanny/daycare. Although we don’t have kids yet, my Fiance and I discussed this about a few weeks ago about the pro and con of having a nanny and day care. My Fiance brought up a point that if I become a Stay-At-Home Mom, once a child is grown up, it would be difficult for me to enter back to the job market because I’ve been out of work for so long.