Post # 17
I totally get both sides of this. It’s okay to take a quick personal call, during nap time, or for a second at the park if its important. But really (and this goes with a lot of jobs), if your not being watched by a supervisor while on the job, it really takes a special person to have a good work ethic, and really REALLY want to do the best possible job. It’s easy to slack off, not pull out that puzzle, not get in there and devote yourself to the situation. It’s easy to put on the tv, bring kids to the mall so they can occupy themselves.
i think it’s all about balance. Give the child space, but always, ALWAreflex observant and reflective of what else the child could use/need. I used to be a nanny, and am now a teacher. I truly try my best, and consider myself a very observant and reflective person. Im not an arrogant person (I know it’s the Internet), but I truly feel I’m was a better nanny than a lot of nannies I saw. I just put my heart and soul into the job, and didn’t tire or relent. And when I felt myself getting tired and slacking, I kicked myself back into gear. Tl;dr. Right?
Post # 18
I actually do take care of 2 children under the age of 2, my own and my neice a few days a week. And yes it’s tiring and draining but so are many other things and many working jobs.
I am all about meeting up to do playdates with other kids, but the ones I am seeing are not meeting up with friends that have kids. I think it is very important to have playdates with other kids but I don’t agree with Nanny’s meeting up with friends while they are being paid to work. I watched a Nanny with 1 small child meet up with her friend, as they became involved in their conversations the kid ran off and into a store. The Nanny had NO idea until myself and one of the store employees went to look for her.
My feelings are if I am paying someone to watch my child I would expect that is what they are doing. A phone call here and there is fine to make a drs apt or pay a bill but to be chatting away for 45+ mins is not acceptable to me to have a personal converstation. I as a mother don’t do it while my child is out in a public area playing. I also feel that when you have children in a play area it’s the adults responsiblity to aid and teach the child proper play and interact with them. It’s how they learn.
I am not saying every Nanny is like this, as there are parents out there that I am sure do this as well, I am just saying it’s what I see in my area on a constant basis and it’s very unsettling to me.
Post # 19
Sassygrn- If she was a nanny that was having a difficult time with a fussy baby I wouldn’t judge her, I would sympathize with her, but she choose to stay on the phone the entire time and ignore te needs of the baby. She deserves to be judged. If it was a mother/father doing it I would think the same thing. Get off the phone and tend to your child.
As a parent that considered a Nanny I would not think it’s acceptable to take my kids to the play area and be on the phone.
Post # 20
I definitely think there’s a line. Nannies spend most of their day – and usually all of business hours – with their kids. If they need to make a phone call, it’s likely that they have to do it while they’re with the kids. It’s understandable. And, just like a mom, they get frazzled and frustrated with the kids. Sometimes, a crying baby is inconsolable and it grinds on your nerves. It’s exhausting.
But there’s definitely a line. However, as just a bystander, you don’t actually know if that long phone call was important or not. Sure, it could’ve definitely been a personal call, but it could’ve been something crucial.
How do you actually know this woman was the nanny and not the mom anyway?
Post # 21
The nanny was Jamican and the children were caucasian. In the store incident the child was African American with a Chinese nanny. I would say you only have about 5 or so Moms that are with the kids in the play area, the rest are Nanny’s ( about 10 at time ). My area consists mostly of working parents.
Post # 22
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Post # 23
She deserves to be judged? wow
Post # 24
@mrsgg21: i have friends who are/were nannies – and half the time they’re on the phone WITH the parent!
in addition – lots of nannies meet up at the park etc so that the kids they nanny can play together.
obviously it sounds like this nanny was not doing her job properly, but if the kids are on the swings, why shouldn’t the nanny make a few calls, providing she is watching them carefully? that allows her to chat with them to and from the park, play with them when they get home etc.
nannies are often asked to make appointments and plans as well – calling doctor’s offices, setting up dentist appointments, arranging play dates, checking the time of a birthday party, etc. so when you see ‘nannies on the phone’ they may be doing a part of their job on the phone.
obviously care of the child is paramount – but i think people have an easier time judging the behaviour of nannies then mothers – would you have been as upset if all the women on the phone were their child’s mother? in fact – how do you know some of them aren’t? or aunts/friends/godmothers?
Post # 25
uhhh my SO’s uncle is caucasian and adopted an african american child. by your own admission – you’d automatically assume they weren’t parent/child? or perhaps you would – because it also seems that you only identify women as nannies – i don’t see any mention of male caregivers.
in addition – just because YOU aren’t okay with a nanny having a conversation on the phone while watching your child doesn’t mean that their employers agree with you.
My SO grew up with multiple nannies (not at once!) and his family has a housekeeper to this day. One of his nannies had a special needs child who needed to be checked on often, i doubt those phone calls, multiple times a day were quick. the housekeeper had serious family issues a few times, those phone calls needed to be done during ‘work’ hours because of the time difference to her home country.
you aren’t their employer – it’s completely possible that those parents are fine with them making phone calls, meeting up with their friends sometimes (you have no idea if they do it once a week or every day) etc.
Post # 26
AND – it’s spelled n-a-n-n-i-e-s.
Post # 27
If the nannies were really, truly bad, they wouldn’t take the kids to the park! They would just leave the kids in front of their TVs.
I sit/nanny on the weekends for kids in my infant room (I work in child care). I think you’re judging them really harshly! Kids 3+ are generaly fine playing by themselves or making friends on the playground!
And babies can be SO fussy about bottles! I have a 6-week-old in my room who won’t suck on a bottle–you have to squirt the milk in her mouth, and then she swallows it!