Post # 1
My Fiance and I moved here almost a year ago and since moving we are having trouble finding friends (I know we sound like losers) I work in a real estate office and there are only 2 other guys who I work with and they are over 40 and they have no interest in doing anything fun. My Fiance works in a warehouse with a couple other guys who are older once again with established families who are not interested in hanging out outside of work either. Long story short we would love to make some new friends! Since all of our family and friends live in MN we would love to meet other couples who would want to go out either down town/bowling/dinner/game nights? Or if there are any Bee’s wanting to grab coffee sometime and chat wedding details I would be up for that too! We want to do something fun to get out of the house with new people. We are both 23 (soon to be 24 within the next couple months) with a wedding in Oct.
If not from Nashville…how do you make friends in a new city where everyone your age has already established a solid friend group?
Post # 2
I’m outside of Atlanta so I’m not really much help because I don’t have many friends around here either lol.
But my financial advisor and his wife moved to Nashville last year. He’s 28ish and she’s 24ish. I know they love going out and meeting new people and stuff like that so maybe yall could hook up somehow. They’re expecting a baby in the next couple of weeks though so I’m not sure how often that will happen anymore. I’ll dm you her instagram if you have one, because she has an etsy shop and stuff so it’s not private or anything like that lol.
Post # 3
I would like that! Thank you 🙂
Post # 4
We actually moved from Memphis about 2 years ago. It’s been interesting trying to make new friends. We’ve met a lot of people at work. We’ve met a few people in our neighborhood. We’ve also met a couple of people at some of our local tasting rooms and through other friends. I’ve really been wanting to volunteer at the animal shelter and try some of the meetup.com groups…
Post # 5
I have never heard of meetup.com. I will look into it though! My Fiance and I go almost every Saturday to walk the dogs and play with the cats at NHS. 🙂
Post # 6
I’m nowhere near Nashville — so no help directly. But I do move around a lot and I can definitely sympathize with it being harder to meet people once you’re out of the socializing bubble of college! I move around internationally so I sometimes even have the issue of not speaking the local language.
meetup.com is great, I’ve met a few of my friends that way. I’m very into sports so I usually try to join a recreational sports team which leads to connections — being into team sports has been a lifesaver for me in terms of making friends while frequently moving. And one city I moved to I was DESPERATE for friends and my two usual tactics weren’t working (meetup.com & sports) so I actually used free online dating sites to find girls to message. Sounds weird and creepy — but basically I went through their profiles looking for similar aged girls with similar interests who also moved recently to the area (so less likely to have an established friend group either) and then would message explaining I was new to town and looking for cool people to have a normal friendship with 🙂
It worked better at the time because I was single so there was an excuse for me to be on an online dating site….might bea bit weirder to explain if you are already engaged/married :/ But I actually did meet a couple cool girls that way that I hung out with!
I also found joining local facebook groups for hobbies/interests I had were also helpful. Good luck, it’s hard to build a new social network from scratch. I find that if your work/living situation doesn’t make it happen organically, then it really requires a time and energy commitment to build the foundations for new friendships. LOTS of coffee dates and afternoon get-to-know-you meet ups until you find a few people you click with. It’s tiring for me (I’m an introvert) but in the long run I’m much happier living in the new city.
Post # 7
I was totally going to join a sports group but then realized planning a wedding that I will be out of the state most weekends for my wedding stuff/other peoples weddings and that it wouldn’t be fair to join a team then never show up lol. I am totally going to try meetup.com! My roommate actually joined a dating site to meet friends and it turned out horrible! The person he was talking to stole a bunch of his info and was impersonating him on other sites. Crazy, crazy stuff! I agree, I have joined some facebook groups around town and have met up with a couple people but you are TOTALLY right it takes so much work and “dates” with people to start from nothing.