Post # 1
Over the past few weeks of going back to university I’ve dealt with a lot of criticism for getting married when in school. More often, people around me have pointed out all the things Darling Husband and I didn’t have, those who didn’t care enough to RSVP, those who make fun of us, calling the wedding not official because we have no wedding band for me or we didn’t go on a honeymoon.
I can’t wait to gradutate in a few months and get out of there. Some people…..
Post # 3
Whatever happened to the “if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all” rule?
Try not to let them get to you!
Post # 4
People can be real fartknockers. Don’t let them get to you.
Post # 4
@SimplyChic11: OMG. What rude people. I can only hope when those people get married, they have all the things you mentioned so that their weddings will “count.” Friggin’ idiots.
Post # 6
You did something different than the norm. I would bet that no one in your circle of friends or even in your classes are at that same point in their lives. They probably don’t see it as rude as we do because they find it strange. Just try not to let them get to you and remember what’s important in life.
Post # 7
People seem to be mistaking all the “extras” often associated with weddings as the actual point of the ceremony instead of the true point – creating a marriage. If honeymoons make an official marriage in their world, then to your associates I’m not getting married either, despite taking vows and spending what is to me a ton of money and effort to throw a nice celebration. Fortunately, I don’t live in Rude and Crazy Land, so I can blow off their opinions. 🙂 Congratulations on your marriage.
Post # 8
@SimplyChic11: Maybe they are jealous because you have something real and meaningful with the person you love.
Regardless, that still doesn’t give them the right to rain on your parade. Shame on them!
Post # 9
@Legallyblondiebride: truth! Sounds like a bunch of fartknockers are runnin’ around at OP’s school…
Most likely they are jealous that you got married. Ignore it. And as for the wedding band, how many of them are married? That’s what I thought. Dont’ let them bring you down!
Post # 10
So respond with the fact that you and your SO loved each other enough not to wait and that you can enjoy an entire life together without a honeymoon or wedding band or you can opt to do them both later.
People are truly vicious and when there is any amount of jealousy it reallllllly comes out.
Post # 11
@SimplyChic11: I would respond, “make sure you write all that down, you won’t want someone thinking the same about you when you get married.”
Post # 12
A wedding band and honeymoon are not more “real” than the love you share with your husband and the family you’ve started together.
They sound like bitter bullies. Instead of getting upset, I’d almost pity them. To belittle others like that must mean they’re really unhappy. Whereas, you, on the other hand, just got married to the guy you love.
You can always go on a honeymoon or a mini-moon or get a wedding band at another point in life. What matters is that right now, you are husband and wife, and that’s awesome!
Post # 13
People can be total jerks. Sorry you have to deal with people who put you down for what they’re clearly jealous of.
Post # 14
I don’t plan on a band, my sister who is married doesn’t have one either. Not that we can’t afford it but because we choose not too.
Don’t let them get to you!
Post # 15
My way of dealing with people who say uncooth or rude things is by giving them a big old dose of honesty right back. I usually just say “..I don’t know why you would say that. It is kind of rude, don’t you think? Unless your intention was to purposely hurt my feelings?”