Nasty divorce question – can you give me advice?

posted 6 days ago in Legal
Post # 2
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futuremrss17 :  You need to discuss all of this with your lawyer. You’re asking for legal advice and you shouldn’t take the word of internet strangers over that of your attorney. 

Post # 3
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Personally I would avoid this, why would you want to lower yourself to this level?  Anyone who believes him that you were cheating throughout the marriage with your current partner will probably believe him even after you share screen shots.

People close to you will trust your reasons and anyone else can get stuffed. 

Specifically sharing intimate photos that he has sent to others just seems like crossing the line.  Laws are different country to country but I’m pretty sure in the uk distributing a photo like that without consent is a sexual offense, and even if it isn’t illegal in the US morally it isn’t great. 

Post # 6
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futuremrss17 :  Okay so don’t do anything your attorney says you legally can’t do. 

If you’re asking what we would do in your situation…? Honestly probably nothing? I don’t know. I just wouldn’t discuss it at all. Do you live in a really small town or something? I would try to be the bigger person I guess. I would block all those people on social media and live my best life pretending none of them existed. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

You should sue him for slander and all this will come out in court legally. While I agree with the PP about being a bigger person, if you really live really rural without a lot people then this slander can affect your social life and more maybe your work life as well? Future job prospects. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

You broke the law (hacking into a stranger’s account). Just stop before you end up in jail. And get some therapy to help you let go.

Post # 10
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zl27 :  he was her husband not a stranger. And what exactly does she mean hack even? Guess the password, reset the pasword? 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

Okay, I misread her post; I thought she hacked into the recipient’s account. But hacking into someone’s account is still illegal.

Post # 12
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futuremrss17 :  Don’t stoop to his level. As tempting as it may be, just don’t do it. Ask your attorney to notify his attorney that he is slandering you and you will take action against him if it continues. 

His family will take his side no matter what you say. Hopefully you have friends and family who know you, know what has really happened and are there as support. The truth has a way of making itself known and karma is a bitch. 

Post # 13
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ashleyroo :  Stuff like slander can actually be really hard to prove. Again, she should just be taking legal advice from her attorney.

I get that this is emotionally charged and of course she’d want to swing back and protect her reputation, but it sounds like she deleted most of the “proof” she had anyway. And it boils down to how long does she want to be dragging all out? OP do you just want to get this over with and move on with your life? Or is it worth talking with your lawyer about how what he’s saying in town might harm your reputation moving forward? If that’s a potential problem it is worth exploring. You have to decide what the priority is for you and go from there. 

ETA: No matter what, his mom and dad are probably going to believe whatever he decides to tell them anyway. Just like your family is going to believe what you say. 

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