Post # 1
So I can’t stand my grandmother. I’ve already posted about her drinking problem and how we should handle it at the reception, and about her behaviour at the bridal shower.
Now I have found out that she booked a hotel room at the same hotel we are spending our wedding night at. I’m not sure why she did this, because she literally lives 5 miles from there. When my mom asked her about it (I want to know why my mom even told her where we were staying!!!!) mom said that grandma thought ‘it was so fun at so and so’s wedding when all the family stayed at the same hotel’. OK except her family is all local they are not staying at the hotel.
If this crazy b*tch comes anywhere near me before the wedding I am going to be spending my wedding day in jail for assault.
The only reason I can think of that she did this is so she can harass me all day and then probably come bang on the door at midnight to bother us some more after the wedding. I want to smash something right now.
Post # 3
Calm down. It will be okay. I know some posters suggested putting someone on Grandma detail…what about that? They can keep her away.
Post # 4
We have someone to keep her away at the wedding but no one at the hotel, she’s just going to be roaming the halls like a crazy woman. If she tries to come in our room (god help me if someone tells her what room we are in) I swear I will call security on her.
Post # 5
firstly i would instruct the hotel staff you have a crazy nanna on your hands and she is NOT to know your room number
next i would give her a bottle of scotch and a straw at the wedding and hopefully she will be too far gone by the time you leave to give you any grief
sending positive vibes
Post # 6
Eloping-good idea on telling the hotel staff not to give out our room number. Now I just have to get my parents on board….because if anyone spills the beans I’m sure it will be them. And my mom is helping me get ready so there is no way to keep it from her.
Post # 7
I know your mom means well, but seriously, I would be pissed too–and if you’re paying for the wedding, I think mom and dad would be paying for another night at a different hotel, because that is WRONG. They know how she is!
That said, is there any way you can spend the night somewhere else? I would definitely instruct the staff that she is not to know your hotel room at any cost, GIVE THEM A PICTURE if you have to.
I would also say that you need to tell your parents that they will be footing the bill for another hotel room if she finds out the hotel room number that day. And, if you can, get grandma’s hotel room number beforehand and leave a couple of bottles of decent alcohol in there–maybe she’ll get drunk instead of trying to find you. You know, an “OOT gift” for your guests!
Post # 8
Worrying about potential problems is usually even worse than the problem—save yourself the angst, change hotels.
Post # 9
@Eloping: haha bottle of scotch! If only my grandma drank more
I would do as eloping suggested and get the hotel staff to not “leak” your room number. Also, if I was super paranoid I might change my hotel reservations and not tell her. Make her think you are still staying there and all but then when she does looking for you, you will be nowhere to be found.
I have a crazy grandma too of sorts. We are renting a beach house and offered for her to stay there even though we don’t want her to – it’s only FH and mine immediate families staying there. Since both FH’s family and mine drink we don’t want her around to make comments and be in peoples business. She’s one of those. Anyway she maybe renting her own house for that side of the family. So since we are having this house she goes “We are not going to be able to hear you on your wedding night right” WHO SAYS THAT?! And a grandma no less! I was so dumb-founded I had no clue what to say.
Post # 10
Change your room at the last minute =]. Dont’ tell anyone!!!
Post # 11
Sand Dollar: that sounds JUST LIKE something my gma would say. Ugh sort of funny but also so rude.
I can’t change hotels; we already put down a hefty deposit and can’t really afford to eat it. And my mom is getting ready with me in my room, so if she’s gonna tell grandma the room number…..there’s nothing I can do about it.
I forgot to mention in my other posts her OTHER stuipd rude remark; when I invited her to the Rehearsal Dinner (because I know my dad would want her there) she says ‘Why should I, I’m not in the wedding’. UGH. She’s coming, much to my dismay, but not before completely insulting me. Plus no sh*t dumb broad, I know you’re not in the wedding. Cuz you know, I’m the bride, you know, the one planning the whole thing.
Post # 12
I’m with ejs – explain to the hotel staff and swap rooms at the last minute. Sure, it means moving your stuff, but … it’ll be worth it.
Post # 13
excellent idea EJ, ask the staff to swap rooms after you leave for the ceremony and just explain about nasty nanna and the drama it could cause
Post # 14
@Noelle-a-Belle: You say it’s your paternal grandmother? Umm are we related?!
Mine totally would have said the same thing about the Rehearsal Dinner. Infact, my brothers wedding (in 2 weeks ahhh) is one where only immediate family and a few friends are invited to the ceremony and everyone else to the reception later. Well they didn’t send out seperate invites to those going to the ceremony so my grandma was all guilt trip to my mom about how she WASN’T invited to the ceremony. Well she was but like was going on and on about how it wasn’t in the invite and really wanted to see her grandson get married if she could. Ahh Shut Up…your invited for crying out loud. Oh then she didn’t send in the response card. Said she didn’t get it…I say the little old lady put it in the trash (ok so I’m not super close with my grandma if you can’t tell) and she just wanted to place the blame on someone else.
I’m sorry you already have a deposit on the room. I would be so over moving hotels. I would contact the staff and explain everything. Chances are someone on the staff has said grandma also! Good luck with keeping her tame!!!