(Closed) Nasty Grandma Part II (another vent, sorry)

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Calm down. It will be okay. I know some posters suggested putting someone on Grandma detail…what about that? They can keep her away.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

firstly i would instruct the hotel staff you have a crazy nanna on your hands and she is NOT to know your room number

next i would give her a bottle of scotch and a straw at the wedding and hopefully she will be too far gone by the time you leave to give you any grief

sending positive vibes

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I know your mom means well, but seriously, I would be pissed too–and if you’re paying for the wedding, I think mom and dad would be paying for another night at a different hotel, because that is WRONG. They know how she is!

That said, is there any way you can spend the night somewhere else? I would definitely instruct the staff that she is not to know your hotel room at any cost, GIVE THEM A PICTURE if you have to.

I would also say that you need to tell your parents that they will be footing the bill for another hotel room if she finds out the hotel room number that day. And, if you can, get grandma’s hotel room number beforehand and leave a couple of bottles of decent alcohol in there–maybe she’ll get drunk instead of trying to find you. You know, an “OOT gift” for your guests!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Worrying about potential problems is usually even worse than the problem—save yourself the angst, change hotels.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Eloping: haha bottle of scotch! If only my grandma drank more

I would do as eloping suggested and get the hotel staff to not “leak” your room number. Also, if I was super paranoid I might change my hotel reservations and not tell her. Make her think you are still staying there and all but then when she does looking for you, you will be nowhere to be found.

I have a crazy grandma too of sorts. We are renting a beach house and offered for her to stay there even though we don’t want her to – it’s only FH and mine immediate families staying there. Since both FH’s family and mine drink we don’t want her around to make comments and be in peoples business. She’s one of those. Anyway she maybe renting her own house for that side of the family. So since we are having this house she goes “We are not going to be able to hear you on your wedding night right” WHO SAYS THAT?! And a grandma no less! I was so dumb-founded I had no clue what to say.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Change your room at the last minute =]. Dont’ tell anyone!!!

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

I’m with ejs – explain to the hotel staff and swap rooms at the last minute. Sure, it means moving your stuff, but … it’ll be worth it.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

excellent idea EJ, ask the staff to swap rooms after you leave for the ceremony and just explain about nasty nanna and the drama it could cause

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Noelle-a-Belle: You say it’s your paternal grandmother? Umm are we related?!

Mine totally would have said the same thing about the Rehearsal Dinner. Infact, my brothers wedding (in 2 weeks ahhh) is one where only immediate family and a few friends are invited to the ceremony and everyone else to the reception later. Well they didn’t send out seperate invites to those going to the ceremony so my grandma was all guilt trip to my mom about how she WASN’T invited to the ceremony. Well she was but like was going on and on about how it wasn’t in the invite and really wanted to see her grandson get married if she could. Ahh Shut Up…your invited for crying out loud. Oh then she didn’t send in the response card. Said she didn’t get it…I say the little old lady put it in the trash (ok so I’m not super close with my grandma if you can’t tell) and she just wanted to place the blame on someone else.

I’m sorry you already have a deposit on the room. I would be so over moving hotels. I would contact the staff and explain everything. Chances are someone on the staff has said grandma also! Good luck with keeping her tame!!!

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