Post # 1
I have very firm/strong Cherokee roots, that being said Im very spiritual in my own personal way. Fiance is Jewish and we’ve decided to make it a non religious wedding. I am doing a sage blessing of the venue that morning. Im debating asking my “mother figure” whos my second cousin but shes very strictly Christian and idk if she’ll mistake it for the occult? i doubt it i just worry far too much. since it is something personal should i do it alone? Also are there any other Native American brides out there or even ones that observe the culture? Are you observing any traditions into your ceremony?
for those interested heres some info on sage cleansing or “smudging”
Post # 3
I’m not a Native American bride, but I think that if you’d like your mother figure to perform the ritual, just explain it to her! If she understands what it does, and what it means to your culture, I’m sure she would be honored and perform it respectfully. For example, I’m non-practicing Jewish, but if one of my close friends who are Christian asked me to read a particular bible passage at her wedding, I’d be honored to do so because it would be meaningful for her. So, she might have more of an open mind than you think! Good luck!
Post # 4
@diplomatswife: thank you maam!!! hadnt looked at it that way hmmm thanks!
Post # 5
To have more of an affect use an Eagle feather to smudge. Remember this is Your big day and I hope that Your Mother Figure respects Your beliefs. Good Luck & Best wishes on Your wedding day Dear!!! Congrats
Post # 6
If I were you, I would ask her to smudge with you.
However, smudging is very acceptable where I live in Canada. My fiance is full blood Ojibwe and I am caucasian. We are getting married in our backyard. I would like to incorporate some Ojibwe custom into our ceremony, however, real Ojibwe custom is not really to marry at all. I asked my fiance if I thought his mom would help me smudge before the wedding (as smudging here is more a cleansing of yourself rather than the location) but he seemed indifferent about it. Haven’t really asked him about it again as the wedding is still a year away.