(Closed) Natural birth, epidural or elective caesarean. What did/would you do??

posted 8 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: What did you/What will you choose??

    I had a natural birth

    I plan on having a natural birth

    I had an epidural

    I plan on having an epidural

    I had an elective caesarean

    I had a caesarean due to complications

    I plan on having an elective caesarean

  • Post # 32
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

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    @Rubbs:  I have that too! It happens most often in the grocery store for some reason…which is mortifying. But its one reason I am choosing a natural birth. My fear of interventions (epi, pitocin, c-section, one intervention leading to the next) is wayyyyyy higher than my fear of natural birthing pain. My fear of a c-section is making me woozy right now just thinking about it. It is legit my biggest fear. I’ve never met anyone else who had vasovagal syncope! 🙂

    Post # 33
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

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    @bunnylovesbear:  

    I was surprised how well my surgery went as well. I always hear all these horror stories. I was feeling pretty good soon after. 5 weeks later and my incision is not even noticeable, only my husband is able to see it and he has to squint to find the line. Its a little under 6 inches long.  They did not use staples, just that tape that falls off after awhile. I have been out walking and jogging and that helped me feel a lot better as well. My body is getting back to how it was before (besides the big breasts and wider hips…) and my sex drive is out of control. Very satisified, not satisfied with the doctors before I was admitted, but the surgeon was great and the epidural procedure went great. That anesthesiologist was amazing, she explained to me the importance of being still and straight for the insertion of the needle and it did not hurt at all. Apparently I have a bit of scoliosis that she pointed out and I never knew about. Most importantly, (besides the flakey skin from being in the womb too long) my LO was healthy and so alert. I have been planning on writing some sort of letter to thank her, my nurses and those in the OR. I was miserable for a week and spent 50+ hours in pure agony with no progression and wondering where the hell my epidural was, so as you can imagine I was not happy and they were still very kind to me.

    Post # 34
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Oldtimer here (I’m over 50)… and saw the title of this post and just had to look in to see what the Poll was about.

    Truthfully, I don’t get the whole “Elective C-Section” thing…

    (which is also probably WHY in Canada with our Government Medicare you can’t just PICK to do this)

    If one can go natural… with or without drugs… then that is a much safer option

    Afterall… a C-Section is a MAJOR OPERATION

    That can have serious complications / side effects for many women

    Ask anyone who has had one?

    Or better yet, ask someone who didn’t have a choice in the matter whatsoever… and HAD TO HAVE ONE (although they planned to go natural)… but were told by their Doctors that due to complications / baby in distress, that things were now critical.

    I found the initial recovery easy from the C-Section (immediate days after) much better for me than other ladies on my ward who had natural on the same day… many of them unable to sit down comfortably due to stitches, tearing etc.

    BUT on the long term, I was still having post-op issues weeks later… and quite frankly my body never did go back to looking anything like it did pre-pregnancy (a pronounced pooch where the incision was made… and a scar that although it is at the bikini line, never truly faded away… it isn’t pretty)

    I’m happy that medically all went well in the end for the birth of my kids… however they came into the world… but I was depressed when the natural one went to a C-Section (having a sense that I had somehow failed).

    BUT in the longrun, I look back now and know that it was the best decision for all invovled (including the nurses & doctors who were taking care of me at the time).

    EDIT TO ADD – I had all my babies at the Hospital… seeing first hand what can go wrong (and very quickly) I would NEVER consider an at home birth.  And as for drugs, I am not one who likes to take any sort of drugs in my life even plain old over the counter stuff (cold meds, headache stuff etc)… BUT I will say that when it comes to childbirth “Drugs are my friend”… an Epi (if you can have one, catch the window of opportunity) is frickin amazing to take the edge off / numb the pain.  Highly recommend that you all read up… and know what you want to do BEFORE the baby comes… because as I said there is a “window” and for some women it is a short period of time… and if you miss it, you have to do without.  Thankfully, I never had to do that, but have heard from other Moms who did it both ways (caught it with one baby, missed it with another… progressing too quickly) and they said the pain was more than they ever imagined… short time frame… but excruciating !!

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    As an aside…

    In truth C-Sections are still relatively new.  And part of the reason they are still a big deal I think.  I was a C-Section baby in the 1950s, when when my mother had me, C-Sections were relatively new technology then … and not to be taken for granted.  My family has told me that they were all terrified for my mother’s well-being as well as my own at the time (dying in childbirth wasn’t common, but it certainly still did happen then)

    In the end we both came thru it.  But it wasn’t easy on my Mom… You should see my poor mother’s scar… it goes vertical from just below her ribcage to her nether regions !!  And of course they knocked her out totally to do it, and she was in the Hospital for over 2 weeks.

    Thank God that I didn’t have to do any of that is all that I can say !!

     

    Post # 35
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    Busy Beekeeper

    my plan was to try to have a natural birth, but i knew i would probably end up getting the epidural unless everything was going really fast and i thought i could handle it…well it didn’t, and after 22 hours of labor, i ended up only dilating 6.5cm, got a fever, had high blood pressure, and so had to have a c-section.  definitely my last choice, but its all in the past now and i have a super healthy baby.

    Post # 36
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I planned on winging it and seeing how I felt. After 5cm, I was in back labor and tired of the pain.  Enter the epidural gods, and I was a happy mama!  And believe me, after the 4th degree tear I ended up with, I was grateful for that epi b/c I didn’t feel it or the stitches for hours!

    Post # 37
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    @inspiredcreations:  YIKES!  That’s quite a tear!  I have read that with an epi it’s difficult to tell how & when to push, and that just bearing down with all your might can increase tearing… do you think that’s how it went for you?  Or did you use a mirror to see how productively you were pushing?  Thank goodness you didn’t feel that though!

    Post # 38
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I plan to go natural and unmedicated, but I try not to get too attached to the idea because if there are complications or I just can’t bear the pain, I don’t want to be one of those women who delivers a healthy baby yet still looks back negatively on her birth experience because things didn’t go according to plan. 

    Post # 39
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

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    @DaneLady:  I’m sure it contributed, but most of my tearing happened b/c of how fast my son was born; 2 sets of pushes, period.  He had the cord wrapped around his shoulders so there was some urgency involved.

    Post # 40
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    @inspiredcreations:  Oh, I’m glad he was ok!  And 2 pushes?!?!  You must be so STRONG 🙂

    Post # 41
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

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    @Rubbs: 

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    @ellebeerob:  

     

    my doula was just telling me about a birth she’d assisted with where the mom had this! She was in labor for 39 hours, and had to be transferred to the hospital, but was still able to deliver without drugs or surgery. But omg, 39 hours!

    Post # 42
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I will see how it goes, but knowing my personality and pain tolerance, I will probably end up getting an epidural. I have run half marathons, but I’m a bit of a wimp when it comes to surgery.

    I think it’s strange that natural birth has been given some kind of martyrdom status, but when in fact, when you read the medical studies, higher epidural use is associated with:

    *married status (versus unmarried status)

    *higher educational attainment (women with at least a master’s or doctoral degree were twice as likely to receive epidurals than women with an 8th grade education)

    *regular prenatal care (women who initiated prenatal care earlier in pregnancy were more likely to receive epidurals)

    There are other factors of course. 

    Post # 44
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I am training for a natural birth.  I have refused to take any kind of drug my entire pregnancy, so I hope to continue not to drug my little tiny baby.  I think we are brainwashed into thinking those drugs are okay, but I really don’t think they are okay for a little tiny baby.  Epidurals are a relatively new trend and I also think they might be the cause of other interventions and later- other developments.  I don’t judge anyone for how they give birth, but I am an idealist and I think a natural birth is ideal.  It is my ideal!  (When I say natural I mean unmedicated and vaginal without interventions.)  I understand there are some situations where baby and mom need medical help in an emergency, but honestly, I think for low-risk pregnancies, most interventions are unnecessary.

    Post # 45
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    def want to go natural when I have a kid. I don’t really get the elective c section too.. I mean if there was danger to the baby, then that is different. Plus I plan on having 3 or 4 kids and as PP mentioned a c section is Major Surgery, and if you have multiple ones it greatly increases the danger, I’ve heard of many women dying after multiple (sometimes just 2) c sections because of scar tissue that builds up. scary.

    Post # 46
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    @unraveledstar:  I don’t think having a med-free birth is anything like being a martyr… nor have I heard anyone say that someone who chooses pain management or surgery is a wimp.  The only “right” choice is the choice that is right for THIS mother and THIS pregnancy, and it might vary from pregnancy to pregnancy, and it certainly varies from woman to woman.

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