(Closed) Natural birth, epidural or elective caesarean. What did/would you do??

posted 8 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: What did you/What will you choose??

    I had a natural birth

    I plan on having a natural birth

    I had an epidural

    I plan on having an epidural

    I had an elective caesarean

    I had a caesarean due to complications

    I plan on having an elective caesarean

  • Post # 62
    Member
    2512 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    View original reply
    @unraveledstar:  for the record, i plan on trying to have a natural birth and i’m married, have my BA and have an OB/GYN whom i love and have already had a pre TTC appt with. i also would never consider myself a martyr for going natural. every woman is different and we all choose what is best for us.

    Post # 63
    Member
    1090 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Not going to lie, I think I will just get an epidural.  Especially if things are moving along pretty slow, I’ve heard they can actually allow you to get a little rest while you are in the process of dilating more.  Also, if any complications would arise, that’s one less thing they have to do to get me ready for a c-section and get baby out quickly.  They can turn the pump down when you are pushing if you want a little more oomph–the meds that they use have a very short half-life, which is why you get hooked up to a tube in your back instead of a one-time dose of something.   

    I don’t think that too many places anywhere (even in the US) are just letting people do elective c-sections, especially for the first birth.  Besides the risks to mom, it is a lot more beneficial for baby to be born vaginally.  It helps to “squeeze” all the extra fluid out of their lungs, making them better equipped to handle breathing on their own.  

    A lot of times, if you have had one c-section, you can “elect” to do another with the second child because it is probably less risky than trying a VBAC–a c-section really changes the way things are down there and makes the uterine wall weaker.  VBACs are kind of “in style” right now, but they aren’t right for everyone.  

    And yes, sometimes doctors will make decisions based on what is more convenient for them.  They are people who have lives, too, and most probably have familes, etc., not to mention they might still have to work an entire day the next day.  If they can somehow deliver a baby during the day vs. in the middle of the night or a weekday vs. a weekend, it’s one less night they have to add-on to their countless nights without sleep or possibly a little more time over the weekend they get to spend with their family when a lot of their weekends are spend taking care of other people’s families.  Plus, sleep deprivation = much higher chance of a medical error.  Not a lot of credit is given to doctors and what they have to sacrifice in terms of a “normal life” for their patients (this is probably the cranky med student in me talking right now). The first and foremost rule in medicine that all doctors have to take an oath to is “first do no harm.”  So I don’t think any doctor would intentionally do something to put mom or baby at higher risk–although I do think some c-sections and possibly inductions are performed a little too early sometimes.  I think it might have more to do with pressure from MOM being sick and tired of being pregnant that influences too-early c-sections and inductions anyways, not because of a doctor’s convenience.  I have yet to be 37ish weeks pregnant, but if there are any mommas who want to chime in, if you could have “picked” a magical day to deliver your baby, wouldn’t you have picked as soon as you could to just be finished being pregnant? 

    Post # 64
    Member
    435 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @Quinlan:  I hope, hope, hope to someday have a natural birth. I do NOT want a c-section or an epidural but who knows until that moment comes!

    Post # 65
    Member
    958 posts
    Busy bee

    I plan on (someday) having a natural birth. I kind of want to be all, “I am WOMAN. Hear me ROAR.” about it, but I’m open to an epi if I needed to. But I have a pretty wicked high pain tolerance so I think I’ll be okay.

    Post # 66
    Member
    1119 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    I had a c-section due to complications and am now pregnant and will have another c-section because both deliveries aren’t spaced enough. However if I had the choice, I would still choose a c-section because my first experience of labor scared me forever.

    Post # 67
    Member
    285 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I had planned on having a natural birth but I too little and baby couldnt even drop so I had a C~section which I really liked… If I ever have another baby I would do another C~section!

    Post # 68
    Member
    2902 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I would like to go natural and feel after many hospital visits in my past that my pain tolerance should be pretty high. I am not oposed to getting an epi, I just plan to labor for as long as possible without one so I can walk around. Would only have a c section if myself of bub was in danger. 

    Post # 69
    Member
    9948 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    To

    View original reply
    @cbee:  “epidurals are a realtively new trend”

    Hmm, depends I guess on how you define new. 

    They’ve been around for decades… with the first instance in labouring women back in 1942 (Drs Robert Andrew Hingson & Waldo B Edwards developing the technique in 1941)

    Epidurals were certainly a BIG Trend when I was having my kids in the 1980s.  With the basic idea being presented to pregnant women, “WHY go thru the pain if you don’t have to ?”

    Of course the full extent of how they were done, and the Pros and Cons (including side effects, mis-fires / potential longterm damages… mostly to the mother) were also discussed in our PreNatal Classes, so we could make an informed decision.

    Based on now over 60 years of usage, I’d hardly say that the technology was NEW or a Trend.

    Just my 2 cents

     

     

    Post # 70
    Member
    77 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I had an epidural. I don’t like needles, but honestly it wasnt bad at all. And my delivery went great. I could still feel a little but it wasn’t unbearable. It’s all about the dosage. Obviously the more you push your drip the less you feel. I didn’t push it at all. But, I could feel enought to know, I would NEVER choose to do it natural. There was a lady next to me who was having her 4th child. The previous 3 she had an epi, so she decided to try natural. She was screaming so loud the nurses came and told us what was going on. SHe kept asking for an epi but it was too late.

    Then I had a friend that had an epi, and she was so numb she didn’t even know when to push. I would’t want that either. I liked feeling the contractions, so I knew when to push without them telling me. Like I said before, its all about how much they give you!

    Post # 71
    Member
    5398 posts
    Bee Keeper

    The results kind of surprise me. C sections are the number one most performed hospital procedure in the US so I’m guessing the demographic of ladies on the bee isn’t very representative of all women because otherwise we would see a much different poll. Although most votes are for “I plan on…” so maybe many ladies change their mind when they’re actually pregnant. 

    Post # 72
    Member
    7768 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    View original reply
    @inspiredcreations:  That is an awesome story!  Thank you for sharing!  I love to hear positive birth stories 🙂

    Post # 73
    Member
    4272 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    View original reply
    @cct876:  My baby wasn’t dropping either… I don’t know if it had to be with me being little. My mother’s pelvis was too small and I don’t know if genetics played a role in that (no expert on this)… They never gave me a reason but I wish they had because I am very curious… I was having contractions really close together, the baby was not dropping and I was not progressing. I had gone into the hospital twice before and they sent me home because I was only 1 cm. When they did admit me, I broke down and got the epidural, Pitocin did not help and they tried to put the cesarean off as much as possible. But earlier that day my water had broke and they did not want to wait any longer.

    Post # 74
    Member
    285 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    View original reply
    @Cady:  I was on Pitocin for 48 hours durning this time I stay at 1cm they even tried a foley ball which got me to 3cm but once it fell out my contractions went back to just tiny ones and they couldnt even break my water or anything she was so far up there…and at that point I asked to go home…so I went out to dinner went home got to sleep in my own bed and spend Sunday(Part of me was really hoping baby would come) relaxing and then went in on Monday for my C~Section!

    Post # 75
    Member
    641 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    View original reply
    @BlondeMissMolly:  I’m not so sure it’s about minds changing as much as it is about certain factors. DH and I are TTC and plan to have natural births; however, my mother only had c-sections. It wasn’t planned that way, but it’s ultimately what happened. She was planning to have an epidural either way, which I am not. When she was in labor with me, I went into fetal distress, so they performed an emergency c-section. With one of my younger brothers, she tried giving birth vaginally, but physically could not as her pelvis is too small. She chose to have a planned c-section with my youngest brother, knowing that she cannot give birth naturally. In my mother’s case, she never planned or wanted to have a c-section, but had to out of necessity. I’m not saying this accounts for all cases, but there may be more to it than one simply changing their mind. Overall, I think it’s a personal decision. “To each it’s own…” In the end, we will all do what is best for us and our babies.

    Post # 76
    Member
    5398 posts
    Bee Keeper

    View original reply
    @smcopp89:  oh sorry I should have been more clear. I was talking about planned c sections for convenience, NOT emergency procedures. 

    The topic ‘Natural birth, epidural or elective caesarean. What did/would you do??’ is closed to new replies.

    Find Amazing Vendors