Post # 122
you and I seem to have had a similar experience.
I had planned for a natural, unmedicated birth. But my water broke and contractions weren’t coming, so I had to be induced. After trying all coping methods I knew, I asked for an epidural because I couldn’t handle the pain anymore. Then I wasn’t dilating, the baby wasn’t dropping… I had a fever, baby’s heartrate was dropping.
I mean, all you can imagine going wrong indeed went wrong. After 47 hours they finally decided to do a c-section because there were signs of infection and there was meconium in my last checkup. At that point I was practically begging them to cut me open anyway because I was so exhausted. It took a while before I came to terms with what happened. I really felt like my body had failed me Inevery possible way.
my husband and I planned on having two kids but I was in shock for a few months after that.. I told him that I might just never want another and he respected my feelings and went with it. But I didn’t want my son to be an only child like me… After a while I became ok with the idea of a last kid, as long as I don’t have to labor again. We started ttc 6 months after what we had originally planned.
anyway I just wanted to encourage you, I understand how you feel right now. As you see your baby grow, if you originally wanted more, you’ll get there. Just give yourself time to heal, emotionally, from it all.
Post # 123
Thank you and I am sorry you had to go through all that. It sounds like you went through much worst and I am happy you were able to overcome it. In hindsight I am glad I got the c-section and I will go that route again. I just need some time to cope.
I thought about it more last night and I remember my blood pressure was very high my last two appointments but since I seemed fine, the doctor did not seem very concerned about it.
Post # 124
1st – water broke on its own, pitocin, epidural, “emergency c-section” baby did not want to come down anymore and I was wiped out after 2 hours of heavy pushing and him not moving any more. (though I will say if I was as knowledgable/bold as I am now, back then I would have fought the pitocin and tried to labor as much as I could on my own. Had problems with dialation and my cervix thinning though so it might not have changed anything. They tried to induce almost a week earlier with cervadil because my bloodpressure was too high but that only gave me contractions 2-3 seconds apart and did not thin or dialate me at all and it was pulled out after only a few hours and I was discharged.)
2nd – 18 weeks now will be a planned c-section with tubal ligation. I wanted to do a v-bac but closest hospital that I can have one is over an hour away and I just don’t want to have to worry about getting there in time incase something happens, and I might as well kill 2 birds with one stone and get my tubes tied at the same time.
Every pregnancy is different and you can plan to go one way but always be prepared for the complete opposite. I have lingering issues with my first delivery and wish that I didn’t but there is nothing I can do about it and I think knowing how my 2nd WILL go is going to help me get over my first.
Post # 125
I’m only 6w2d, so now I’m saying I would like to have a natural birth, but I don’t know how that will pan out in reality. I would actually love to have a home water birth with a midwife (kind of my dream birth plan), but the way our insurance is set up is that everything is 100% free if I do it with the military hospital. If I select a midwife, all of my prenatal appointments would be free, but the birth would run me about $2000 and I don’t think my husband will be up for that. Now I get to try and do the natural birth at a hospital, but I’m worried. I was with my friend when she delivered at this particular military hospital and they were SO pushy and just trying to get that baby out ASAP (when there was no medical need to do so). They were trying to push pitocin on her the minute she came in and she was only at 39 weeks and was progressing normally. I don’t want that experience, so we’ll so how well I can stand my ground when the time comes for me to deliver. Just praying it’s a good experience overall, whether it be natural or with an epidural. I reallllyyyy do not want to go the c-section route, but if something emergent comes up, I’d def be willing to.
Post # 126
That’s interesting that they allow tubal ligation during birth now – my Mother-In-Law apparently asked them to do it when she had her 2nd child and they refused to do it!
Post # 127
Hmm I haven’t actually spoke to my Dr about it, but I know it can be done. I have read tons of stories about it and recovery etc… I know they won’t do it on women under 30 unless there is a medical reason but I am over 30 so there should be no problem and I can’t see why they wouldn’t do it. I am already numb and cut open. Will def ask the Dr about at my next appt.
Post # 128
I planned on having a vaginal birth with an epidural. My entire pregnancy I kept saying I thought I’d need a csection. 2 days beforw my due date we found out our dd was breach. So had to have a csection. I was scared but was put to ease by the doctors & nurses who perform a million csections! The whole thing took 15minutes!! Which is amazing to me. The recovery was really tough but dd was healthy and happy and thats all that matters.
Post # 129
Aw congrats on your new bundle! I would put a little lotion on just her forehead if the baby acne isn’t too bad there. As for when to schedule the c-section, I know part of the reason my son’s skin was so flakey is that my amniotic fluid was really low. Part of it had to do with the fact that I was having a partial abruption, but I feel like as long as the dr’s can make sure there is still plenty of fluid then the baby should be fine until the end. But that is just kind of a guess, I will have to ask my dr when the time comes for me again.
Post # 130
They don’t knock you out for a c-section. You are awake for the whole thing, but you are numbed via EPI and other drugs.
Post # 131
I was told by an OBGYN that they can do an epi at anytime and that the window isn’t really as small as people are lead to believe.
Post # 132
I had two epidurals that ultimately failed. I went into it wanting to hold out as long as I could before I got it, but I had awful back labor, was throwing up a ton, and wasn’t at all prepared for that sort of pain. I got it at 5cm, and it failed the first time while I was around 8-9cm. When I tried to tell the nurse but she apparently understood my “I can feel every effing contraction at a 10” as “I’m feeling some pressure” and told the OB such. He told her not to have the epidural replaced since I would be pushing soon.
I spent the next two hours sitting slightly hunched over on the bed clutching my Mother-In-Law with one and and DH with the other. I couldn’t focus on anything but trying to keep breathing–I couldn’t even open my eyes during a contraction. Finally DH begged them to give me some relief (since I hadn’t progressed at all in those two hours) and another nurse realized that I was feeling the full pain, not just pressure (I was not a very good advocate for myself) and the anesthesiologist came in and put something in my IV and then replaced the epidural line.
The second time it stopped working was about half an hour into my two hours of pushing, but I didn’t say anything that time because although I got no relief from pushing (the pain just moved from my back to my hips) it was an excellent motivator to push productively.
Even though it worked probably only a little bit over half the time I’m really glad I got it. I feel like my chances of ending up with a c-section would have been a lot higher had I not gotten it. By the time I pushed DS out I had been awake for over 32 hours and the contractions were coming hard and very very close together. I was exhausted and overwhelmed, and though I wasn’t able to sleep while the epidural was working it let me rest. I don’t know if I would have been able to find the energy to push otherwise.
Post # 133
Omg, I totally thought they knocked you out! I think I’d panic more not bring able to feel my body.
Post # 134
They can do general anesthesia but they usually prefer not to do that. They might in your case though. Otherwise you are awake, but can’t feel the lower half of your body. Yes…that part freaked me out and was really the only thing I disliked about the cesarean process.
As they were closing me back up, I yelled, “AGH!”
They gasped and asked, “What?!”
“I CANT FEEL MY LEGS!!!”
They were not pleased lol…oh wells…
Post # 135
With DS I had an epidural and I plan on doing the same with this one. I admire women who go naturally, but it’s not for me.
Post # 136
Congrats to you as well! It is good to hear that this is not so uncommon, I thought it was clearly my fault for not paying attention to my body and thus putting my baby at risk. I am glad I went to the hospital when I did and did not wait another day…I did not know whether to blame my doctor or myself because like I said, I never really got a clear answer as to why it happened. I was also really confused as to why they never kept me for observation as I was having such strong contractions so close together but not dropping or dilating..and thanks, I will try that with the lotion. I was thinking of looking for some sort of support group on the webs today, so I can hear more of these stories and get more assurance.
That does make sense, if you are overdue they usually do a non-stress test to make sure there is still enough fluid to support the baby so they might check that earlier in women with our history….. at least if I have another one things will be looked at more closely and a cesarean is not as bad as I thought it would be (the recovery was nothing), I can at least take that from the experience.