Post # 1
I am pregnant with my first child and have been researching birth since before TTC! I really would like to have an unmedicated birth. We explored a lot of options for birth including home birth and birth center but are choosing to have this baby in a hospital. I’ve already toured the hospital and talked to a nurse there so I understand the routine checks and requirements that come along with birthing in a hospital. However, I would like to be as prepared as I can to cope with the pain of labor and stay as relaxed as possible. So I have a few questions for those who have been there!
1. I’ve looked into doing classes such as birth boot camp, Bradley method and hypobabies. Are the in person classes really worth the time and cost? Each costs about $300 and involve quite a bit of time and driving for us. I would really like my husband to learn some relaxation techniques to help me through.
2. Has anyone ever just read the books that go along with classes and felt prepared enough? I’m also thinking I may want to combine techniques from various methods so I could make my own little home study if I got several books.
Any other advice or experiences about preparing for a natural birth would be appreciated!
Post # 2
I would recommend looking into breathing techniques you can do with your husband to cope with the pain. Practice them together every day.
Strong perineal massage from 30 weeks onwards prepares the vagina for birth and can limit tearing or the need for episiotomy.
A birthing ball to bounce on when labour starts also readies the vagina and gets baby in the right position.
Try to stay on your feet as much as possible so gravity pushes the baby down without needing intervention.
I’d recommend buying books or even doing a distance learning course on child development and birth so you are well equipped with the knowledge of exactly what will happen to your body. All the best.
Post # 3
I read a book called Birth Skills that really resonated with me. I was able to go natural and the only part of labor I struggled with is when my daughter was crowning. The book is written by a woman in Australia and I am in the U.S., so I wasn’t able to take the class, but the book felt like enough.
I was at the hospital for about 5 hours before I delivered and I have very positive memories about the experience.i really credit the book for the relatively fast labor.
Post # 4
Great suggestions! I know my hospital provides birthing balls, but I think I will get one to have for labor at home as well. Luckily I minored in child development in college so I have a good ‘techincal’ understanding of birth but I know I will need some practical strategies to get me through.
I haven’t heard of that one, I’ll look for it thanks!
Post # 5
Look into a doula…big support with you and your hubby with birth you want. And of course read and watch videos
I wanted to do Bradley Method classes but schedule didn’t work.
We are currently in birth bootcamp and really like it and we are getting a doula
Post # 6
I think attitude is the most important thing. You need to learn how to keep yourself calm and relaxed while you endure intense pain for hours on end. For me it helped to remember that it will end in about a day. I’ve had some painful things to endure in my life, and knowing that it will end soon always keeps it in perspective. I can put up with almost anything for a couple of days. Plus you get a baby when it’s over!
And don’t feel like you are a “failure” if you get pain relief. Women all over the world deliver babies with no pain relief because they have no other choice. They would probably choose it if they could. So there is no shame at all in relieving pain. For most women childbirth is the most painful experience they will have. You choose pain relief for dentistry, or would for surgery, right? Childbirth is no different.
Post # 7
My personal experience: as long as all goes well, one does not need preparations. I didn’t go to any classes, because learning how to breathe and trying to concentrate on a dot on the wall just sounded absurd and I didn’t have time for that, either. That being said, as long as I was allowed to move, I could labor on my own without any problem until 9 cm. In my case, though, baby was turned the wrong way and the midwife didn’t do anything to turn it around. Once they wanted me to lie on the bed, without letting me move, the pain was just unbearable. So in the end, I needed an epidural and the doctor had to help to get the baby out.
Post # 8
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I am 25 weeks pregnant with baby #1 myself. I am on the fence as to whether or not I am going to have a natural birth…due to my Fibromyalgia it has been so far reccomended I get an epidural (but we will see on the ‘big day’). I follow this amazing Mommy Vlogger on youtube. She documented the natural birth of her second child. I have watched this video maybe a dozen times and reccomended it to several others. I love it because it shows the whole labour and birth. She talks to you about what she is going through, and it makes the whole process look and feel A LOT less scary…whether you opt for a natural birth or otherwise. It is a 20 minute video that I think would be a great prep resource for you! I really felt like I learned a lot from it, and I think you should check it out 🙂
Post # 9
i read the bradley book and felt i could do it on my own. i was glad i didn’t pay for a class because i was induced at 36 weeks, everything went out the window.