Post # 1
I know there are tons of threads on NFP, but I started reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility (great book, it was highly recommended by loads of wise bees!) and am feeling a little overwhelmed by it and was curious as to how many bees used NFP or Fertility Awareness Method (FAM) and what your experience has been. It seems like a lot but the author keeps saying that it’s easy to pick up on and will become second nature.
I used the Pill previously and have been off it about two weeks. I’m interested in utilizing FAM to become pregnant, and then as a method of contraception after baby #1.
So tell me, bees, do you use NFP or FAM? For birth control or to become pregnant? What have been your experiences? If you took the Pill before, how long did it take your cycles to become regular?
Post # 3
I would use it if I could. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work while on the BCP. I’m all for reducing the probability of becoming pregnant!
Post # 4
I was charting before we got pregnant with my Dirty Delete. I started charting to see how regular my cycles were before we start TTC.
Then while we waited to get closer to our TTC date, we used it to prevent pregnancy.
The thing was, we got a little ahead of ourselves and got careless and got pregnant a little (like 6 months) sooner than planned. lol
Whenever my first PP period comes, I’ll start charting again just to see how my body is working since having a baby. I have an IUD now, so I don’t really need to use charting to prevent pregnancy.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t use it as birth control. I was raised learning it’s ineffective, and even if it’s not, I would always be nervous since it’s ingrained in me.
Post # 6
I think it’s great for TTC, but I know several people that used it for contraception after their first child very and still fell pregnant again.
Post # 7
@redheadem: thats probably because most people assume FAM/NFP is the same thing as the rhythm method which is DEFINITELY inneffective.
But anyways, I haven’t started using it yet. BUT I know my Aunt used it for both concieving and avoiding pregnancy and it’s worked really well. She’s had 4 beautiful babies and all of them were planned. Planned so much so as to pinpoint the days she got pregnant and had a better estimated due date than the doctor!
Edit: and the best thing to do is to go to actual courses that teach the method. The teachers know what they’re doing and can tell you that most of the ‘oops’ babies from the method are actually from the couple misreading charts and signals.
Post # 8
I bought the book and have only the read the first few chapters but those few chapters have been sooo informative. I will be using this method once I get the hang of it and once I finish the book. In the meantime it’s condoms for us.
Post # 9
I picked other. I read the book and think it’s awesome. I take my temp and pay attention to my cervical fluid. Unfortunately my periods are super irregular so it won’t work for me as birth control. I started very early with charting so that I could try and get some sense of my cycles before TTC. At the very least I can see when I ovulated after the fact, know when my period will start (impossible to know otherwise), and if I’m pregnant (without taking a test).
Post # 10
I plan on NFP after our LO is born, because we only plan to wait a year or so to try again for baby #2 so instead of going back on the pill I’m hoping to just do NFP.
Post # 11
I have used the Fertility Avoidance Method for birth control sucessfully for 8 months. I use the website tcoyf.com (same people who wrote the book) to track my daily temps. It works great for me.
After charting regularly for a few months after coming of BCP, I was able to identiy some definite patterns in my cycle. I typically ovulate on cycle day 12 and my cycles are typically 28 days long. This means that 10 days each cycle we use condoms during my fertile period. The rest of the time, I know that there is no chance of pregnancy, so no condoms needed.
If you are worried about the chance of an unwanted pregnancy, I would suggest using condoms all the time for the first few cycles until you see a definite pattern in your cycles. The website tcoyf.com had tools to help you identify your fertile periods and ovulation date, and can predict these after a few months of data.
The best part is now I am confident that my body is working as it should to be able to get pregnant when we’re ready, which will be in 2 months (yay!). I know exactly the best days to conceive and with any luck it won’t take us more than a few cycles.
Post # 12
We have used condoms for prevention for many years. I will never take hormonal birth control again as I think it caused me problems with my cycles. We are trying to use FAM to conceive currently…