Post # 1
My fiance and I just completed the Catholic Engaged Encounter and started to learn about Natural Family Planning. We are interested in it because I’m currently on the pill but my sex drive has gone way down since being on this current pill and I’ve gained weight since being on it as well. We are trying to research the effectiveness of using unbiased sources. Does anyone use this and like it/work?
Post # 3
My SO and I use this method. I chart using fertilityfriend.com. I’ve been charting for 7 months now, and I love it. I had every adverse reaction to BC that there was and tried several different types, but I was never happy on hormonal BC. I just take my temperature every morning, put the temp into the chart, and done. We’re in a LDR, so it’s pretty easy to abstain during my fertile window. If we’re together, we either just pull out or use a condom, depending on our mood I guess. I highly recommend the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility to learn how to chart.
Post # 4
I’m going to be upfront. I’m a huge fan of fertility awareness and natural family planning. However, I’ve figured out some flaws in NFP studies. My suggestion, do what you feel is right morally. Just anecdotally, I’ve seen many women get pregnant accidentally when their intent was to avoid. Since my Fiance and I are engaged, we’re abstaining. However, I am fully aware that if we choose to use NFP that it’s likely at some point we could conceive when we aren’t ready to.
If you have normal, textbook cycles before you went on the pill then it may very well be a very good method of avoiding children.
Post # 5
We do and I’m very happy (and very NOT pregnant! ha!) I just can’t handle hormonal birth control. I also work for an OB/GYN clinic and all the doctors here recommend for women with predictable cycles who don’t want to use hormones. I learned how to chart through reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility.
Post # 6
Thanks for your thoughts! While Fiance and I are not opposed to having a surprise happen, we’d rather that surprise happen after the wedding than before just because we have so much going on in the next 6 months, moving on top of the wedding. We did learn about the basal temperature as well as charting your period. They did mention checking your cervical mucus on top of all of that. Is that easy to learn about?
Post # 7
@playingdaisy: Yes, checking cervical mucus is pretty easy to pick up on. There is also cervical position, which isn’t as conclusive as the other signs and takes a while to figure out. Charting has taught me so much about my body.
Post # 8
I used FAM for years. You have to be willing to take your temp everyday and check for cervical fluid, and follow the rules.
It’s as effective as the pill if you follow it right.
I highly suggest getting a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility.
Post # 9
From what I understand, it is as effective as most other forms of birth control, when used correctly!! That is a big issue with any type of BC, if you aren’t doing it right then it is more likely to fail. I think the issue with NFP is that there are more things to learn than popping a pill so it can be easier to get wrong.
Post # 10
I had a blood clot from BCP 3 years ago so no hormones for me again ever. I haven’t had an oops. But I follow the rules and I track on tcoyf.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House
My friend used this method and got pregnant only one cycle in to her marriage. So, it really requires that you follow it (and if you’ve never had sex before, like she hadn’t… they basically wanted to do it morning noon and night).
I’d recommend looking into taking a class on it. She now teaches NFP and the Billings Ovulation Method and hasn’t been pregnant for the last 3 years.
But haven’t you ever heard the joke… “What do you call people who practice NFP?”
Post # 12
My advice as someone who was using NFP/FAM, and who incidently got pregnant on her wedding night, is FOLLOW THE RULES. If he doesn’t like wearing condoms, don’t have sex on fertile days and hope he pulls out soon enough.
Post # 13
If you learn it well, and follow the rules, it can be very effective. I highly recommend taking classes. Most NFP “surprise” babies that I personally know were really just cases of the parents deciding to take a chance. I can’t say that Darling Husband and I have always followed the rules to the letter, but 8 cycles in and we aren’t pregnant. 🙂
Post # 14
@beekiss: Could you expound on the flaws you’ve discovered?
Post # 15
I love it! DH and I have been married for a year and a half and following the NFP/FAM method (we cannot use birth control morally due to his beliefs)…no scares, no worries…I absolutely love being in tune with my body and knowing exactly what is going on throughout my cycle.
Post # 16
As part of our marriage prep, Darling Husband and I went through NFP through the Church. I was a person who loved BC so much that I was actually mad I had to give it up to learn this process. But when I did, I realized I did not want to go back on and Darling Husband and I use NFP now! I’m still getting used to it and have had some weird cycles but it’s completely worth it. I haven’t been pregnant yet and we use it to delay pregnancy. I will admit during my fertile time we use condoms if we absolutely cannot abstain which isn’t part of the Catholic teaching.
Check with your Catholic parish to see if they have any teaching couples who teach the Sympto-Thermal Method through the Couple to Couple league. It’s a series of 3 classes (about 6 hours of instruction) and once you have completed one class, then the couple who taught its your forever teaching couple and you can use them to ask questions and make sure you are completing the method correctly. There is a one time fee that covers the class, books, thermometer and charts and you receive an quarterly magazine in the mail. Of all the methods and ways to learn NFP, I’m glad we went with this method!