Navigating relationship/issue with stepsister

posted 1 week ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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6322 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

BeepBopB00p :  I think she might be jealous, to be completely honest.  Is she married now?  Or in a serious relationship leading to marriage?  Did she think she would beat you to all of these things?  Was she ever competitive with you?

I think it’s up to YOU what kind of relationship you want with her now, but maybe your news makes her long for something she doesn’t have that she thought she would?

Post # 4
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583 posts
Busy bee

When people show you who they are, believe them. Mourn the relationship you wish you had with your stepsister. Notice the pattern here… and don’t project your own kindness and interest in a relationship onto someone else.  

When/if you decide to call them back (and you don’t have to), keep it verrrry light and pleasant – and that’s it. If they ask about the treatments and you feel compelled to confirm– again, keep it light. “Yep! It’s something we’re looking into!”, “We”ll see!” , etc.

Protect yourself at this time. Your stepsister sounds like an emotional vampire. Don’t invest in emotional vampires. 

Post # 7
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7778 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Even people who have great relationships can have difficulty talking about infertility. My best friend is doing fertility treatments and while I’ve tried to be supportive I don’t often ask her about it because I don’t want to seem like a nag when it’s out of her control. I usually wait for her to bring it up. I don’t think it’s weird for your (not close) stepsister to not talk to you about it. I think she’s shown you who she is. I wouldn’t expect anything different.

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