Post # 1
I’ve only been engaged for a month and I am already NECK DEEP in wedding planning! Our wedding isn’t until next June, but I have booked a few big vendors including the venue (which includes catering), an officiant, musicians (ceremony, cocktail hour & reception) and a photographer. When we booked the venue they included a list of “preferred vendors” that they work with and I thought that planning was going to turn out so great… I had all the infomation right in front of me! I used their list to book the vendors listed above and all seems to be going great!
EXCEPT…. when I called the florists on their vendor sheet, they were all already booked for my wedding date. PANIC! So I thought I would do some research and look through the photos on my photographer’s website to see what florists she has worked with before. I actually found a florist who worked with MY photographer at MY venue and the flowers were GORGEOUS! And she is available on my date!!! Phew, I thought things were really going my way….
…Until my photographer told me that she did not have a good experience working with her. She did not elaborate further, but she sent along her own list of preferred vendors that she works with. Her words: “I have found the vendors on my list to be the most professional, acommodating and experienced. I only want the best for my clients!”.
So, for Bees who have already gotten married (or BONUS… Bees who work in the wedding profession), how important is it to stick to the “preferred vendor list”? If I hire someone off-list am I creating unnecessary drama?? Is it an unwritten rule that if you book a venue or a vendor you are “bound” to use the vendors that they like to work with?
Post # 2
I defintely don’t think you’re bound to working with preferred vendors! Those are usually just suggestions meant to be helpful. I would be VERY cautious of working with someone my photographer said wasn’t good to work with though…I personally am a wedding photog and wouldn’t take giving a negative opinion of a vendor lightly…but I would be honest if I wanted to spare a bride from a bad experience. Definitely do your full research on that florist before working with them!
Post # 3
I think it’s weird that your photographer has a preferred list of florists – how much interaction is there between the two? I would ask for more details about why your photographer even cares which florist you go with.
Anyway, we didn’t use any of our venue’s preferred vendors, partly because of cost and partly because we found people who we liked better. This is your wedding, hire who works well for YOU, your vendors should all be professional and figure out how to work with each other.
Post # 4
I think it would be better to keep an open mind. The relationship between you and the florist might not exactly be the same as what is between the florist and photographer.
Post # 5
Whether or not you’re required to use a preferred vendor depends on your contract with the venue. My venue has a list of preferred vendors, and if I don’t use one of their recommended vendors, they have the right to charge me a fee for going “off list.” This is because they know and trust the vendors on their list and feel like they are taking a risk by going with with vendors whom they don’t know, or whom they know may be less than professional to deal with. Some venues I talked to absolutely required couples to use only their preferred vendors, others didn’t care and merely offered suggestions.
But I too wonder how much interactions a photographer actually has with a florist. My guess is that her “preferred vendor” list is really just a group of businesses who have all agreed to work together and recommend each other — basic business networking — and so she is discouraging you from using anyone else.
Post # 6
The florist will set everything up, before the photogrpaher even gets to your venue, and take everything down, after everyone leaves. I have no clue why he would say that, unless he’s just trying to financially promote someone else.
Post # 7
As photographers, we barely interact with florists. Unless she’s specifically seem something go badly with that florist before (e.g. bouquets arriving really late, etc), there’s no reason to follow her advice…
Post # 8
It depends on your contract. Our venue contract required us to hire a DOC and required us to choose a caterer from one of their preferred vendors. We ended up mostly sticking to the list for the rest since it’s semi-destination, but our photographer was not a preferred vendor and it’s nbd.
Post # 9
i would ask your photographer for more details about his experience with the florist to figure out what’s going on
Post # 10
I wouldn’t put any weight in a photographers preferred florist list at all. It would be meaningless to me.
Post # 11
Call my cynical but the does photographer get a kick-back from brides choosing his preferred vendors? I understand why venues have a list, but a photographer?
however, i’d keep doing research and see if there are any reviews of the florist that support what the photographer said AND I’d ask the venue if they have any other suggestions.
Post # 12
I would ask the photographer to eleborate, it seems sketchy to me as most likely your photograpger and florist don’t work together.
Post # 13
Um… why would the photographer and the florist even cross paths in a wedding situation? It’s possible the photographer was with a bride that was devastated over a bad situation but their ability to get along is not a concern. If you had a wedding coordinator that didn’t like a caterer? Well… that’s a BIG issue. photog and flowers? whatever. I would try and get some reviews from other non-biased parties if you could.
Also a prefered list is often marketing and sometimes linked to financial insentives. Either both are on eachothers prefered list or one florist gives kickbacks or hires your photographer to do thier promotional photos. Some will do it out of the kindness of their hearts but in business sometimes the motives are not always clear.