NCR (Not COVID-19 Related): What advice would you give your 5 years younger self

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Post # 17
2467 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Spend more time with loved ones because you don’t know how much longer they’ll be around! Tell your family that you love them even if they drive you crazy. 

Post # 18
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2020

Stop obsessing about your weight! It doesn’t define you. 

Post # 19
5818 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

Don’t worry so much…it was definitely him, not you… you won’t be a spinster… yes you will own a home one day… you’re not too old for children…. You can and will go back to school…. This too shall pass… One day you’ll be happier than you could have imagined. 

Post # 20
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

Stop worrying about things that haven’t happened.

Post # 21
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2021

– Eat better now, because it only gets harder as time goes by. 

– Save a little bit of eevery check every month (yes, I had people saying this to me at the time – you can lead a horse to water, as they say!)

– Don’t be so scared to try new things

– Save and take that dream international trip now, that also gets harder to do as you get older. 

Post # 22
1482 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I try to live without regrets, especially as all the things I did 5 years ago landed me where I am now.


1. Stop trying to push your loving boyfriend away. You have no idea how much this man will sacrifice for you, and how amazing things will turn out. You’re being a shithead. Stop it.

2. Get proper help for your eating disorder. It got pretty dark, and it took longer than it needed to get out of because you didn’t seek help. 

I am in a good place now, despite obvious chaotic circumstances. But I feel like the trip here would have been far easier if I just did the above.

Post # 24
1073 posts
Bumble bee

Take more time to learn as much as you can while in college because the stakes get higher from there.

Post # 25
2367 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

5 years ago I started making some great decisions that led me to be willing to date and ensured I met my husband. But 10 years ago? I would have told myself to make more friends, get out there more, and do not get a teaching degree.  I would have told myself to get a degree in computer science. I always thought I wasn’t smart enough, and now I work in that field, but not at that level. Recent assessments have shown me I’m capable, but I didn’t get that degree. Now I’m married and pregnant, about to be 30, and the thought of going back to school is wretched. 

Post # 26
1046 posts
Bumble bee

If I could go back and tell myself anything it would be….don’t have a child. 

I love him more than life, but the heartbreak has just about killed me. 

Post # 27
1374 posts
Bumble bee



Post # 28
1374 posts
Bumble bee

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Hereforthecake :  

Your comment really affected me.  Those two sentences are agony.

I can’t even imagine what you must have gone through to get to that point.

Post # 30
221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - Concord, Ontario

Not to feel embarrassed or ashamed of who I really was. I identify as a lesbian and have been in a same sex relationship for 3 years but it took me a long time to feel really comfortable with myself 

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