My fiance and I have been together 3 years now and have a very wonderful relationship.
We do argue though, from time to time. But it is NEVER name calling, putting the other one down or anything of the sort. We don’t storm off and it’s always settled in a matter of hours at the most. We don’t yell either, we did in the beginning when we were both drinking but since that time we have calmed drastically. I might cry and sometimes he will as well when we realize we have been doing something to hurt the other person and didn’t know it before but we never make the other person feel bad, they are just deep discussions about things we are feeling bad about.
We flow very well, get along wonderfully. Our arguments are so far and few we just naturally get along.
We have a lot of chemistry and passion as well. We are very loving toward the other and everything just flows with us. Many people have said they were envious of our relationship and wish they had one like ours. Many people have tried to take us from the other (and I’m assuming this is because of our relationship and they think they can have that with the other) but none the less we prevailed.
We have gone through the wedding vows already
For better or for worse: We’ve both had our share. He was pretty crazy in his drinking days. Sober we were great but when he was drinking he would hit things and get all mad at me over little things saying “Let me live my life!”. We stuck it out though and he stopped drinking on his own. I’ve also has my worse times with jealousy (past insecurities) that I’ve worked through. We have our troubles but we work on them dilligently and we continue to build eachother up.
For richer or for poorer : We’ve gone through terrible poor times, made a bad decision to move a few states away, I got bad social anxiety and quit my job, took my fiance a while to find a job. I lost my license so I couldn’t drive and my brother moved in with us. We were so broke we were eating ramen every single night and eventually our water got cut off. We couldn’t afford to have it cut back on so we had to shower at friends. Our lights got cut off and our neighbors bugs moved in. At that point we moved back home and for a while in with his grandmother. We got our own place shortly after that. But despite the money troubles we prevailed. Right now we are blessed to be comfortable thanks to his job.
In sickness and in health: We have been through a rollercoaster of health issues these last two years. I started having seizures, without every having them before. I didn’t have medical so I couldn’t find out why I was having them. Because of the uncertainty I started getting horrible anxiety. The worst of my entire life. I would wake up all hours of the night shaking uncontrollably. My fiance would wake up and roll over and give me a back massage (which always seemed to calm my anxiety) he would do this all throughout the night. I was afraid to be alone. I was afraid to sleep, afraid to be awake. Afraid of every single thing and my fiance was there stroking my hair calming me down. He sat with me during every hospital visit not wanting to leave my side and had to call in to work so he could be there. He’s got a super great immune system so he hasn’t been sick but if he were to ever get sick I’d be by his side the whole time in a heart beat.
Hes my best friend and while we both have traits about eachother that drive us bonkers, we laugh about it. Like my fiance with his ADD. I’ll be discussing wedding things and getting all serious and suddenly he’s saying “Have you heard the new song by Avenge Sevenfold?” instead of getting mad, I accept him for who he is and laugh about it. We are all flawed