Member- TriciaG
- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
My FI and I have been together for over 3 years, lived together for a year and a half and engaged since May 1st of this year. I’m 39 and he just turned 50 and we have 4 kids total…My girls are 20 and 15 and my son is 9. His daughter is 16. We are raising them together and are a very busy househoild. We weren’t planning to get married until sometime next year but something has come up that has changed that. During a pre-op shoulder CT scan, several months ago, the docs found a “mass” in my FIs chest. For a couple months, through all the tests, they told us it was probably lymphoma (requiring chemo and radiation) or a thymoma that would have to be removed. By the grace of God, it turned out to NOT be cancer! However, he does have to have it removed along with half his thyroid gland. He’ll be having a sternotomy much like a heart surgery patient has to undergo, where they “crack the patient’s chest” in order to remove this mass behind his sternum. I said all that to say this… We want to be married before the surgery because we have a business, house, vehicles, etc that are all in his name because of some past credit issues on my part and if, God forbid, something should happen to him all “his” possessions, which are actually both of ours, would go directly to his only child. Since she is a minor then his ex, his daughter’s mother, gains access to all of it. I. Don’t. Think. So!!! lol He says he wants me to be protected in case something happens to him. Soooo we are planning a small (just us and the kids) wedding for this weekend and will have a big reception/party after the first of the year when he’s all healed up. Has any of you ever gone through anything like this? We have both been married before and neither of us wanted a big wedding to begin with but we we aren’t even having family there because together we have TONS of family lol One thing I am wondering about though is when to do our sand ceremony. I really love the idea of this and already have the stuff to do it but would it make more sense to do it at the reception/party in front of our friends and family? Or do it during our little ceremony? Tell me what you think Hive 🙂
