Post # 1
- Wedding: November 2018 - City Hall
We are expecting our first baby at the end of the year/beginning of the New Year. I am normally a planner and was thinking I should read a bunch of baby books. I don’t have much experience with babies and thought I should know about it all: breasfeeding, soothing, signs of sickness, sleep training, etc. etc.
A friend of mine had a baby last year and I asked her if any books were particularly helpful. She said she didn’t read any and thought she’d just wing it. She said there is a lot of mixed advice out there in books (plus unsolicited advice you receive from others) and that she prefered just listening to her instincts. She only read about sleep training when the time came.
Did you read baby books and found them necessary/helpful?
I wouldn’t want to confuse myself with all different things, but I also want to feel like I know what I am doing.
I mean, it’s not rocket science, right?
Post # 2
I did not read books. It isn’t rocket science. I spent some time on baby forums, read some articles, and watched some youtube tutorials (bath, diaper, etc.). If you have the basic ability to sift through the junk on the internet and know when something is a valid source, then you’ll be fine. If you get to the end of pregnancy and still feel baffled, you can sign up for a baby class that will show you how to do the basic stuff.
Post # 3
istanbee : I didn’t read any baby books, but I do have a pediatrician who I feel comfortable asking anything, I actually felt comfortable asking if my daughter had Zika once because my sister had just come back from a mission trip and then my daughter got really sick 😆
I don’t think it could hurt to read baby books but my motto is you do what’s best for you and your family and you will be ok. Each kid is different, each parent is different… I don’t think you can take a book and apply it to each baby, but knowledge is not a bad thing either
Until you read something that directly contradicts what you just read in a previous book, then it gets confusing
Post # 4
I think it depends on the kind of person you are. I really didn’t know much about kids before I had them, so I found some of the baby books/pregnancy books interesting. I think I leafed through what to expect and the happiest baby on the block, as well as a book called “a mind in the making” that my husband (a pediatrician) recommended. I also mostly winged it- but babies are tough- they don’t speak your language, they keep weird hours, and they’re unpredictable. So I felt like some of the things I read just helped me cope with the nature of newborn and child madness. Agree with others- you can totally wing it- but it never hurts to know what you’re getting into and at least have some idea of what has worked for others. Congratulations!
Post # 5
I didn’t read any baby books. I just furiously googled things as they came up. I did get the Wonder Weeks app which has been helpful in explaining why baby randomly goes through phases of hulking out.
Post # 6
istanbee : I didn’t read any books, but I did read a lot of blogs and message boards to get the range of real mom experiences. I also watched YouTube videos on how to use my Moby wrap, how to swaddle, how to breastfeed (that shit is hard and doesn’t come intuitively unless you want to destroy your nipples), etc. I didn’t see the value in reading books for things I didn’t know if I’d need or want to do (like sleep training). I also read a lot of tips on natural childbirth and I used a lot of that info and mantras to help me through labor and delivery. My husband tells the story that the entire car ride to the hospital (I was in transition in the car – we were racing the clock) I was hanging onto the handle muttering “I am strong I can do this” and “ok baby we are doing this together” and it definitely helped to have ingrained those in my brain ahead of time.
Post # 7
not neccessary to read books. so much information at your finger tips on the internet.
i do suggest joining a local mom group.
if you do want to read something, i highly recommend happiest baby on the block and wonder weeks, though the wonder weeks app was great, the book did have more info in it.
Post # 8
Pretty much everything you could need or want to know is online.
I definitely researched ahead of time but I didn’t read any physical books.
Post # 9
I thought I’d be the type to read but I havent read a single book. Questions that come up I just Google. So far I think we are doing okay. (3 months)
Post # 10
istanbee : I didn’t read that many books but it’s still useful to have a good knowledge of things. I read a lot online but a lot of that was also googling when questions come up. I agree with PP, if you are able to discern valid sources online (because there is also a lot of junk online) you will probably be fine. Also, if you are on facebook there are some groups that can be fairly helpful (but many many many that are not…).
I would say having a good understanding of breastfeeding and how everything works and is supposed to work can be very useful. I would recommend spending some time on sites like kellymom, it is pretty good. There is a lot of misunderstanding about breastfeeding and what is and is not normal.
Our ped gave use the baby 411 book and I found it pretty helpful with a newborn. You don’t really have to read it in one sitting but that was the only book I found really useful. Definitely didn’t read it when I had my second though.
It’s helpful to understand how baby sleep works (esp. with breastfeeding) so you can know what to expect (that it’s normal for even one year olds not to sleep all night) but you don’t necessarily need books for that.
I definitely winged it on stuff like changing diapers, baths, etc.
Post # 11
I actually found reading baby books deeply unhelpful. I found forging my own path less stressful
Post # 12
Re: breastfeeding, I did zero research about that ahead of time and didn’t regret it. I just asked to see the lactation consultant constantly while I was in the hospital, and that was extremely helpful. Breastfeeding is so unique to the mother and baby, with so many unpredictable factors that can cause trouble like bad latch, supply issues, tongue tie, sleepy baby who doesn’t want to feed, cracked, bleeding nips, etc. It’s impossible to know what your issues will be ahead of time, but having a lactation consultant by your side in those critical first few days can make all the difference in getting off on the right foot.
Post # 13
I read a lot. The What to Expect series is great. I also like the American Academy of Pediatrics books. Googling is fine, but there are developmental stages or advice that may not have occurred to someone to research. The internet has a lot of bad information and not every book author is credible or they have an agenda so it is obviously always important to consider the source.
I also learned a lot from child birth classes.
Post # 14
I didn’t read much of anything (other than crowdsourcing mom groups I’m in or asking Google) until my son hit 3.5 months old and was refusing sleep by waking every 30-90 min throughout the night for weeks on end. Then I was like a freaking sleep scholar with all the books I downloaded and articles I read. Holy shit you do not know how fast you can devour a book about getting your kid to sleep until you realize you have 27 minutes to figure it out before they wake up
Post # 15
I highly recommend a book called Your Baby Week by Week. There is no point reading too much in advance but this is a good easy weekly guide. I found it super useful.