- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Ok, so the wedding is Saturday. We only invited our direct neices and nephews- no other kids, no friends’ kids, no cousins’ kids. Envelopes were addressed to Mr & Mrs John Smith. Future Mother-In-Law wanted to put “no kids” on the invites, but we refused because it’s rude and because adults should be able to figure out who’s invited by who’s on the envelope, right?
FI’s cousin (lives 1000 miles away) RSVPs her, her husband, and their three-under-eight. We call Future Mother-In-Law, because we’re not close with these cousins, and tell her call this girl and tell her no, her kids can’t come. Future Mother-In-Law calls her sister, FI’s aunt, instead, who tells her oh don’t tell cousin she can’t bring the kids they’ve been looking forward to the wedding this whole time we’ll work it out so the kids don’t come to the reception. Future Mother-In-Law told us she’d made the call and things were fine. The “working out” was that cousin and aunt would share babysitting duties on and off through the night, which pissed us off when we found out, but whatever.
Well come yesterday, uncle broke his leg. Can’t come to the wedding, aunt can’t come, and now cousin, who’s never been told she can’t bring the kids and has made travel arrangements for all 5 people, is en route. Found out last night from Future Mother-In-Law that cousin still thinks the kids are welcome, as aunt never told cousin about this babysitting arrangement she dreamed up. We never factored in for the kids.
Annoyed, but looking to not cause WWIII, we say ok, we’ll make it work, the venue will probably wash out the two adult meals with three kids meals (did i mention that she also requested steak dinners for everyone? Even the 2 year old? Yeah, no, the under-12 set gets chicken fingers and fries, you PITA) and I’m sure moving a table or two won’t be horrid. Venue says fine (they are saints). Cousin will be none the wiser what a serious turd she was.
The thing is, we told other people they couldn’t bring their kids. Another cousin declined the invite cause we said he couldn’t bring his kids. I don’t want to start drama by saying “oh cousin just brought them without telling anyone” because I just want to take the high road, but what do I tell people who get snarky about not being able to bring their kids when now cousin has hers there??