Post # 1
So my Future Mother-In-Law whenever I talk about wedding stuff she refers back to her two daughters weddings four years ago. Never comments on what Fiance and I are planning just cuts me off and talks completely off subject. Great…
Turns out she is feeling left out since she planned her daughters weddings from start to finish. Plus my Future Father-In-Law told her its our wedding and she needs to butt out, she was pushing a Catholic ceremony on us, which I appreciate but by all means it doesn’t mean don’t talk about anything at all!
She is about 3 hours away and I am very anal/OCD about DIYs, etc. Yes I am prob a control freak as I learned at my friend’s wedding this weekend! What should and how can I get her involved? I don’t want to make her hate me as she will carry a grudge(she doesn’t talk to her sister or both daughter’s in-laws due to conflicts). Help!
Post # 3
Then pick something you don’t care about-and let her do it. BTW- Is she and Future Father-In-Law planning to do the rehearsal dinner?
Post # 4
@creativeplannertobee: I was told that they would pay for it and we would have to plan it. Good thing since I already planned that down to the invites. Her being far away I just don’t know how to involve her. Should I invite her to craft hour? I was thinking to invite her dress shopping as well.
Post # 5
Definitely invite her dress shopping.
My Mother-In-Law did the out of town bags. She was happy to be involved in planning something, and I was happy to have one less thing to do.
Post # 6
@baletrina: My Future Mother-In-Law is paying for stationary and I am making sure to include her in all the girly activities.
Post # 7
I would just check in with her every once in a while. Email her to make sure she’s okay with the invitation wording, or invite her to look at venues with you. Small stuff like that can mean a lot.
Post # 8
I just let my Mother-In-Law know what I was planning, showed her pictures of things that we bought like bridesmaids dresses, etc, told her when we did anything new, and invited her to look at the venue and dress shop with me. She also threw the Rehearsal Dinner so that kept her busy. I think just knowing what was going on with our planning helped her feel in the loop and included.
Post # 9
I would pick something that you weren’t necessarily planning on doing (so therefore don’t feel strongly about) but would add extra oomf to your wedding and let her DIY it. That would make her feel like she was contributing but not drive you crazy. I would definitely take her dress shopping and email or txt her regularly. Or you can send her my way. I need all the help I can get with all my projects LOL.
- water bottle labels
- get away car decorations
- decorations for the restrooms
- a million paper flowers which you could attatch to favors?
Post # 10
Thanks for all the help Bees! I think if I email her she will actually have to respond. Lots of great suggestions for stuff for her to do. Def will ask her to come dress shopping. We have the big stuff so I’ll have to find something crafty for her to do. Maybe Out of Town bags/water bottles would be good? Thanks for the input!