- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
Hello everyone! I’m starting to feel like the ‘vent queen’ these last few weeks about one thing or another…but I really could use the advice and sounding board that is the Bees!
I am 14 weeks pregnant and working part time. When I took this job (and left a full time job at another, much larger clinic) it felt like my dream job and was full of potential! This may be the pregnancy hormones talking (and PLEASE tell me if that is all this is) but this job is turning out to be a hot mess! Firstly, I didn’t know I was three weeks pregnant when I switched jobs (DH and I were NTNP at that point instead of hardcore TTC). My new boss has had a supportive stance towards my pregnancy, so this isn’t the issue but I am mentioning it because it will become relevant in a moment.
I work three half days a week, and am paid hourly. The clinic has been open since January and is slowly growing with the intent of it being open full time as it gains a clientel base. I started at the end of June. My technical job title is Medical Office Assistant. It is literally just me and the doctor (who is my boss). I truly have always wanted to work in a small specialist clinic, and DH and I agreed that we could afford for me to take a huge cut while the clinic gained ‘steam’.
So here is my problem. My boss texts me far more than is appropriate on my days off. He asks me questions about patients and tasks which are hard for me to answer when I am not at work. I have asked him before if I should have remote access at home so I can check things for him, but that actually made him mad because then he’d have to pay me to work from home (his words not mine)….yet it is somehow ok for him to text me on my private time all the time for free! He acts like I should be a mind reader, and changes his mind about how things should be done a lot. He may be an older and seasoned doctor, but this is the first time he’s had his own clinic. Prior to this he worked for larger clinics and had to do things their way…so he’s like a child who just got their first tree fort (bad analogy, but moving on…). He also blames me for everything that goes wrong. He misplaces a patient’s file BAM my fault. A patient doesn’t show up for their appointment…BAM my fault (even though I DO give reminder calls). His last Medical Office Assistant rage quit on him…and I can now see why!
Today (well last night) was the final straw because he texted me at 2AM (!) about a patient file. I 100% know for sure I prepared it for him before the long weekend, but he can’t find it and is accusing me of not doing my job. He has been berating me over text on and off since then and now (about 11am) about how I don’t do my job and this keeps happening and asking increasingly repetitive questions about the file. The kicker is I can count on ONE HAND the mistakes I have made since I started working there in June! None of which have ever impacted patient care like an improperly prepared file. I’d also like to note this is NOT the first time he has texted me during the wee hours of the morning. I have asked him before not to do so, but clearly he isn’t getting the message.
I knew after the first six weeks this job was a mistake…but I was slow to act because I figured I just had to keep it together until going on Maternity leave at the end of February (I am due in early March). Plus I made such a huge deal out of landing this job to everyone I know! Also, when I left my position at my old Clinic they were quite upset…they had to hire TWO people to do my job, and I refused to stay longer than my customary two weeks to help train them…yes I know that makes me look a little bad…so I already know I can’t go back. When I slowly started realizing it may not be possible for me to stick this out with my sanity intact (he texts me A LOT…and often at odd hours…even though I have asked him not to do that before unless it was an emergency) I started looking for a new job…but the second employers find out I am pregnant they pass on me. Yes that is discrimination…but I understand.
I’ve also found out that the government of Canada wont pay me formal maternity leave anyways because I am working under a certain number of hours every week…so when I have this baby we will be losing my income completely anyways (which we can afford). As some of you know, I already have some serious stress in my marriage…and I don’t need to deal with this too!
I feel like my life is one big train wreck right now…and I want to take control of SOMETHING! Level with me Bees, should I quit? Or should I suck it up and stick it out for another 6ish months?