Post # 1
So my wedding is being turned into a drama filled nightmare by my mother and older sister. I am trying my best to keep them happy but the other day it hit an all time low. When I called to tell my mother that quote “we may need to trim down your guest list a bit” she LOST HER MIND one me. She exploded into a full rage rant about how she isn’t being included in the planning, how ungrateful I am being, it went on and on and on, to be honest I can’t remember most of what she said it was too many accusations and insults to keep track of….but I do remember what she said about my dress……she’s never liked the dress, always said it was too ‘modern’ but this time she told me quote “you are too BIG to wear that dress”. We already bought the dress, in fact it’s already arrived at the store waiting for my first fitting, she chooses NOW to tell me I’m too fat for my dress?? Needless to say that was my emotional breaking point, I try hard to be proud of my curves but when my own mother puts me down it is so had to be ok with myself the way I am…..sorry for the long rant I guess I’m just looking for some shoulders to cry on 🙁
(I’ve posted this pic of me on other boards, when I find the other angles of me in the dress I’ll add them to this post.)
Post # 3
You are absolutely not too big for that dress. You are, in fact, completely gorgeous in that dress.
Post # 4
@ellisrobertson: Very much agree with you on that one. It looks great.
Post # 5
@sburger555: You are absolutely rockin’ that dress!!!
Post # 6
That dress looks great on you! Seriously, it hugs your curves really well!
Post # 7
I just don’t see it… your curves are ROCKIN.
Sounds to me like she’s just swinging to hurt you, and coming up with things to say that she knows will get to you.
Don’t have much advice to give on how to handle that situation in general, but I can tell you that her comments about your weight and that dress were bold faced lies meant to tear you down.
Post # 9
Some mums (like mine lol) are *sometimes* a *bit* rude about their daughters looks/style/body. My mum tells me things like ‘don’t go out in that youre legs are too fat’ or another lovely one ‘you look awfl from this angle’ etc. I don’t know WHY they do it, I think it is -in my case- their body issues rubbing off on you. They have (or had when they were younger) a similar figure to you and they wouldnt have worn it. BUT -hey, man- that was 20 or so years agao- course they wouldnt have worn it- it wasn’t in fashion. This is my nice explanation of why mums are horrid. When I have calmed down with my mums meanness I usually come to this conclusion (I like reasons).
Alternatively: bloody hell your mum was MEAN and quite bitchy and proper horrid to you about your dress. Ok, so you threw a spanned into her works but there was not need for her to spit her dummy out like a baby and cause massive ructions. (This is my first, intuative response after reading your post).
Supportively: Maaan, lady! You look great. Ok, youre not pin thin BUT you look BEAUTIFUL. Your skin is a fabulous colour and next to your dark hair you look like a classic beauty muse, Bottecchelli and Beautiful. So many people would kill to look like this! Your waist is teeny tiny and your figure is perfectly proportioned. I especially like the curve of your hips, going into your waist. You are doign something daring with that dress you are saying: ‘look at me. I’m beautiful, I’m marvellous, go ahead, stare at my arse all day, because it’s ACE’. Seriously I cannont convey to you how beautiful you look, but beyond this it is a classy dress with alot of intrest but it also does you huge justice. You are a woman, a girl and a wife simultaneously on your wedding day (reason I put ‘girl’ in is not to condesced but traditionally we were all to be shy, virginial and all of that before hand) but in addition, you are a muse. Your H2B will go wild with that dress, and all your friends and family (and even your mum – she was just saying hurtful things in the heat of the moment to wound, with prehaps a bit of jealousy at your self-power) will think ou are beautiful, because -and this is the honest truth from a freezing cold little room in a historic town in England- you ARE!.
Post # 10
@mecattacow: <—- I think I want you standing behind me everytime I have a bit of self doubt! LOL!!!! 🙂
Post # 11
You look amazing in your dress, wear it with confidence!
Post # 12
That dress is gorgeous and you have the absolute perfect body for it. Buy your mom a Botticelli painting, she’s been looking at too much Vogue 🙂
Post # 13
@sburger555: I’m not just saying this, you look amazing in your dress. You completely pull it off.
Post # 14
You look amazing in that dress!
Post # 15
I love what it is doing for your curves!
You look fantastic
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
i love it when i dont have to twist my words to make ppl feel good without lying
That dress was made for you … theres just sthing about the way your carrying yourself in that pic that says wow so wear it with confidence