Post # 1
Fiance has a younger brother (13) and sister (9) that I know would really like to be involved in the wedding. We’re more than likely going to have him as a candle lighter, but what about her? His other sister is guest book attendant, so I had thought about having the younger sister stand by her and hand out programs. Or maybe a flower girl? Is she too old? Will the brother feel left out?
If we make her a junior Bridesmaid or Best Man, then he will want to be a junior Groomsmen and Fiance isn’t too crazy about having juniors. Plus, as a tribute to my late grandmother, I don’t want 13 people standing at the altar with us! (Us, Wedding Party, and Pastor makes 11)
Post # 3
I do not want a junior bridesmaid so I’m considering allowing his 9 yr old niece to be in charge of passing out sparklers.
Post # 4
She could be a flower girl. I don’t see any issue with her being a Flower Girl and her brother lighting candles.
Post # 5
She can do whatever you want her to do. Do you want her to help with the ceremony or reception? Or either?
Perhaps she can help seat people? Flower girl would be fine too.
I think as long as each of the kids gets to do something “cool”, no one will feel left out.
Post # 6
She might feel like she’s a little too old for a flower girl. It really depends on her. I like the program idea. If you want her to have a bigger role, what about a reading? My friend’s sister was 10 or so and read a passage from The Little Prince. It was perfect for her.
Post # 7
Handing out programs is nice and easy, as is being your ‘gift keeper’ (keeps an eye on things, makes tidy piles, etc). I’m sure anything she does that includes giving her a flower to wear will make her day 🙂
Post # 8
My littlest sister (7) is going to be a flower girl. But I also have a 10 year old brother, he is going to be my FI’s personal attendent. Basically he gets to wear a tux, hang out with the wedding party, and then sit with my parents during the ceremony. My littlest bother thinks its cool. My Fiance is going to find small things for him to do too. Like deliver something to me, help straighten his tie, that kind of cute thing.
Post # 9
My fiance’s 9 year old niece is going to be our program attendant 🙂 We also might have her do a reading, but he doesn’t have any other siblings/nieces/nephews that we would have to worry about jealousy issues with.
Post # 10
Are you doing a guest book?? For my mom’s wedding, I was about that age and my mom had me stand up next to the book/pen as people entered and I got to see ALL the guests! And the guests loved that I was there too! =)
**Oh snap, I dont know where my brain is! I totally over-read your already having a guest book attendant! I love the thought of passing out programs from a basket. Maybe she could help with the passing of the wedding cake!
My flower girls will be 8 and 9 or 9 and 10 the day of our wedding! I never considered them too old! =) Best of luck!
Post # 11
The program passer is a good idea, you could also have one of them as a Herald and carry a sign.
Post # 12
After thought. When I was that age I loved being a food server at any party. For some reason I have always loved feeding people and I always enjoyed being a beverage or cake passer outer.
Post # 13
Great ideas, everyone! I think I’m probably overthinking the whole thing, like “will she be upset if her brother walks down the aisle to light candles and she’s stuck at the back at the guestbook?” I might ask her mom about it and see what she thinks. She’s been excited about the wedding since before we were even engaged, so I know she has to have a special job!
@SoonToBeeMrsD I love the personal attendant idea for your brother!
Post # 14
Why not have her be a JB and have him be an usher or walk his mother in? I think 13 is a great age for an usher and it would be nice to have someone from his side of the family there greeting people at the church.
I have a similar situation ( Godson who will be around 16 and his sister who will be 13 for the wedding) so I made her a JB and him an usher. They were thrilled! It was a great way to include them.
Good luck with what you pick!
Post # 15
I think handing out programs sounds good… or a reader.
Post # 16
When I was about 7 or 8 I got the important “job” of passing out programs at my aunt’s wedding. My sister (older) was a junior bridesmaid and a cousin of mine (younger) was the flower girl. I felt kind of left out because I didn’t qualify for either of them.
Maybe you could just ask her if she’d like to be a flower girl? Depends on the kid, I think, on the age that they’d still want to be that.
However, I did feel important that I got atleast some sort of job and got to wear a dress that matched the bridal party, too. 🙂