- 10 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
As of last week, I am getting married May 29, 2010. Very happy when the man of my dreams ask me to marry him. We were dating for a year in a half then serious the last 27 months. We have a very good relationship. I have two children 16 & 10 with my exhusband, he has a daughter 13 with a girl he dated. We have had problems with his daughters Mother. His daughter feel she has to lie to her mother about being over my house or doing anything with me. He has 50/50 with daughter. Well last week I was very upset. He had to talk to the mother about taking the daughter back. The Mother wanted him to take her on a day he don’t have her. The problem is when he wants her on the days the mother has her she says no its not your day, but when it benifets her its ok. He never stands up to her. I opened my big mouth and brought up the past. I know now I should have never did that. We talked for hours, then he said lets put the wedding off till we can work on this. It was like he stabed me in the heart. I love this man more than any man ever. Then I said to him your calling it off we have 3 months till the wedding. I have bought things, deposits on club, DJ, dresses for us girls, rental things. over $1500 out there. Then u tell me lets put it off. This happened Wed. felt like crap Then Thurs. We talked more he said if I don’t bring that up everything is still on. I told him I will never bring You and her up again, I have learned my lesson. I had that feeling of losing him forever it hurt and I know my self I will never touch that again. So now we are into Sat. We spent the whole day together talked about wedding was on the net looking for last min. things an hour before he was to pick up his daughter he tells me well were putting it off. I looked at him. What!! He said the money is nothing I’ll give the money back to you that you spent. My mom was there I asked my mom to hear us out. My mom asked him are you affraid? He replys yes I want every thing to be perfect before we marry and this little epesode it but things back. Then she asked is it your daughter? He replyed that has something to do with it. He don’t want his daughters mother to be mad at daughter. The Mother wont talk to her if she knows she was over at my house. Come on this is her daughter. Life goes on. He’s taken his daughter to counseling. It was time to pick her up his daughter I told him not to come back. We need time to think this out. (He is always at my house even when he has his daughter the only time he’s home is when his daughter has school and that is to sleep.) He called me last night, we talked for 4 and half hours. He tells me not to jump the gun. To be patient. How do I know if he will ever marry me. Can you give me advice. What should I do stay with him or just call of the relationship?