Post # 1
I have been married for almost a year to a wonderful man. Here is the problem; I havent told my ex husband that I got married. (Father of my child) He is one of those people that is never wrong and puts blame everywhere but himself. Well he swears that my current husband is the reason him and I got a divorce. (We didn’t start dating till after I was going through the divorce for almost 6 months.) The ex hates him. Has said numerous times that he wants to kill him. So as you can see the man scares me to death. Any advice would be great.
Post # 3
Yikes, perhaps you might stick with what he doesn’t know won’t hurt him?!?! Not happy to hear the death threat on your husband. That’s a bit scary.
How long have you been married?
Post # 4
Do you have custody or your ex? It seems odd to me that after being married for a year that he wouldn’t know? But if you’re worried for safty maybe a restraining order?
Post # 5
Oh, duh..I’m sorry. It clearly states you’ve been married for over a year.
I agree with @SouthernTulip about the restraining order if it gets out of hand.
Post # 6
Yikes – a restraining order might definitely be the way to go. Especially if you have full custody of your child. I’m with the “what he doesn’t know won’t hurt him” camp too. If you’ve managed to keep it a secret from him this long, he most likely won’t find out in the future unless you told him point blank.
Post # 7
If you share any custody with him, he should know. It would put your child in an awkward situation if the child ever brought up the subject of the “new dad” in passing conversation with your ex.
If you seriously think he would harm any of you, get a restraining order.
Post # 8
Even if you don’t seriously think he’ll hurt you, get a restraining order anyway. You need to protect yourself, your husband, and your child. This guy sounds like a total loose cannon…good luck.
Post # 9
I agree – if you do not have full custody GET IT! If you already do then I wouldn’t call him up just to tell him. Try to be fair to your son but make your family a healthy relationship place!