(Closed) Need Advice

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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3576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yikes, perhaps you might stick with what he doesn’t know won’t hurt him?!?!  Not happy to hear the death threat on your husband.  That’s a bit scary. 

How long have you been married?

Post # 4
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459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Do you have custody or your ex?  It seems odd to me that after being married for a year that he wouldn’t know?  But if you’re worried for safty maybe a restraining order?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh, duh..I’m sorry. It clearly states you’ve been married for over a year. 

I agree with @SouthernTulip about the restraining order if it gets out of hand.

Post # 6
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

Yikes – a restraining order might definitely be the way to go. Especially if you have full custody of your child. I’m with the “what he doesn’t know won’t hurt him” camp too. If you’ve managed to keep it a secret from him this long, he most likely won’t find out in the future unless you told him point blank.

Post # 7
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527 posts
Busy bee

If you share any custody with him, he should know.  It would put your child in an awkward situation if the child ever brought up the subject of the “new dad” in passing conversation with your ex.

If you seriously think he would harm any of you, get a restraining order.

Post # 8
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2588 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Even if you don’t seriously think he’ll hurt you, get a restraining order anyway. You need to protect yourself, your husband, and your child. This guy sounds like a total loose cannon…good luck.

Post # 9
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1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree – if you do not have full custody GET IT!  If you already do then I wouldn’t call him up just to tell him.  Try to be fair to your son but make your family a healthy relationship place!

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