(Closed) Need Advice.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 5
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5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Hmm. I think that a meeting with a financial advisor could help you two see what your goals are and how manageable they are with your current and projected incomes. I don’t know that you should be feeling all the pressure to support these goals financially, especially since he’s still in school. I feel that if either person in a couple is a student, they’re both living like students for a while, because it’s next to impossible to support you both as if you both have steady, solid incomes.

Also, while your goals are great and healthy to have, they may need to be scaled back with the way the economy has been lately (and again, the fact that your Fiance isn’t bringing in a full income yet). Appreciate the great family and friends you have now, maybe discuss taking up your MILs offer but have a date as to when you’ll move out so you take those extra savings super-seriously, and just make a few tweaks to your goals until you’re both on more stable financial grounds. Best of luck, the financials can be such a huge source of stress, but gauging them realistically and shifting goals may really help you guys take pressure off yourselves.

Post # 8
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5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Lilubird: I’d call around your city and see. Also, ask some of your closer family and friends if/who they use. Also, your church/religion may have some services (such as Aid Association for Lutherans/Thrivent). Some may do a first consult/meeting with you for free or a reduced price. 

Post # 10
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5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Lilubird: You’re welcome. I know that even though Mr.ND and I are going to be starting off with very modest means, once I graduate and wrap up the bar (we’re getting married 2 months before I graduate law school) we’ll be meeting with someone to see how our dreams of house/kids/savings/etc will be best achieved. I think it’s just a smart move ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 12
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5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Lilubird:

Haha, I don’t know if he loves it all the time but if we lived Mr.ND’s way we would have lots of fun but living in a tent ๐Ÿ™‚ Your Fiance made me smile and think maybe Mr.ND secretly loves it too, even if it cramps our style sometimes.

Post # 16
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208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

dont give up, its never to late to start your dreams, you can jsut put them on hold until you come up with the money…dont get discouraged at least you guys know what doing on and want to chang and save…just concentrate on that for now…or its always to have a Plan B in life similar to plan A…hope it helps ;(

 

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