(Closed) Need advice!

posted 7 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I myself would probably let it go…. They may very well not be the right one’s to counsel with you.

If you really want to do something with you fiance along the lines of premarital couseling you could look into this book

Preparing for Marriage

And maybe ask one of your pastors…. since you’re in a larger church there should be either a pastor or someone from their counseling team that would love to do that with you two

EDIT: Darling Husband and I used this book along with our Pastor and it was REALLY great! You two could do it through yourselves as well =)

Post # 4
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1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

She may have spoken to her husband and he didn’t agree. I’d let it go. Sorry.

Post # 5
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7174 posts
Busy Beekeeper

What kinds of texts did you send her?  Since you have her cell, I’d either call or text and ask if she was still interested in getting together, but if not, you completely understand.  Give her a direct request and ‘out’. 

I usually tend to think people are too busy and therefore miss out connecting with great people.  On the other hand, people are busy and life can be very full.

On a different note, do you think she was wanting an invite and was disappointed to not receive one (if that’s the case).

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper

@rubysoho:  I don’t think her texts were blowing you off.  I’d just call her and ask!  (Don’t text, since she may not be a texter).

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I prefer calling as a means of communication, especially with people I don’t know. A call I feel like I have an obligation to return, a text I don’t. She might take you more seriously if you call. If she doesn’t return your call, I’d find someone else.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Are there any couples group in your church ? Maybe they have suggestions for counsellors.

My hubby and I did ours with a local christian counselling center, counsellor was with a pastor’s wife with training in counseling .

Post # 11
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5655 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I would say right on about the polite and pleasant.

You have to know that sometimes things that we try and get done don’t work out b/c God has something different for us or he’s protecting us…

You really have no idea the spiritual condition of this lady and or her husband… the things they struggle with or don’t submit to God.

I just know that counseling is a really big deal and getting advice and a how-to shouldn’t be take from just anyone…

I think you and your Fiance just continue to look into a book or devo you two could do together =)

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