(Closed) Need advice

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Courtlynn06:  Has he said anything about why he doesn’t want to tell them? I think it is a bit odd…

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Courtlynn06:  Well, my dad didn’t tell his parents he and my mom were engaged for months. I still don’t really know why. He’s kind of a private person, but I think he was also nervous about how they would react (and they were not initially supportive). They’re happily married now and have been for over 20 years. My husband took a couple of days to tell his parents we were dating (while we were visiting them…silly silly), and he said it wasn’t their business or something like that. It made me uncomfortable though, since I also felt like he should be excited and proud. When we got engaged he called them immediately.

It can be a bad sign, but it also might not be. Are there any other problems that worry you?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Courtlynn06:  That does seem strange, though not necessarily like a read flag. Are a lot of your arguments about telling his family about your engagment? Do they live nearby, have they seen you (and your ring?) since you’ve been engaged? If they aren’t an open family then maybe announcemnts like that just aren’t a big deal to them? It is odd that he’d get so upset about it though. Has his family ever had reservations about your relationship?

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I guess he doesn’t get the whole “you need to make an actual announcement whether you think they know or not” deal. My parents knew my engagement was coming, but I still took a picture of the ring the day he proposed and emailed it to them.

do they not approve? has he actually mentioned engaging you to them, even if he hasn’t announced that it’s official?

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