Post # 1
me and my fiance are planning on getting married late next year 2014, we are currently searching for the right location. A few days ago we had we had an appointment at a venue that we both loved, and it was witnin a price range etc. The only problem is a friend of mine is getting married there in a couple of months. I told my friend that we were going to look at this venue and at the time she didnt have a problem with it. The day after, when she’d had time to think she did have a problem!!!
Even though our weddings would be over a year apart she said i would be stealing her limelight and all our friends would compare our weddings and she would be really unhappy if we got married there! That this place is special to them and i would be taking that away from them.
As i understand how stressed my friend is at the moment with her wedding in a couple of months, but i am upset that she has acted this way.
Me and my fiance are still looking at other venues but are worried we wont see anything better thats affordable for us and that we both love.
can someone please give me some advice about this, should i stay away from her venue or go with our happines??
Post # 3
No problem. Use the same venue if you want.
I think there is sometimes an issue with relatives using the same venue, because a lot of the guest list is the same. But with friends, there’s not much overlap of guests, so there is no reason for her to object. There is no limelight to steal.
Post # 4
I dont mean to sound harsh, but your friend doesn’t have a choice in the matter. It is up to you and your husband.
Post # 5
Just wait until after her wedding to let her know you booked it. After the fact, I don’t think she will care.
Post # 6
Use the venue! It will be over apart so no one will be thinking anything of it! And, your wedding themes, colours, dresses, decor, EVERYTHING will be different. And, like PP’s have said it is up to you and your FH, not her. She does not own the venue. It does not belong to her. I’m sure countless other couples have wed at the venue, so really she is stealing their limelight Go for it! If she makes a fuss don’t let it bother you. Tell her that you want your wedding to be at the venue, it suits in with your planning and budget, and that you would appreciate her support. Good luck OP.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre
Your friend is being a little bit of a bridezilla, no? she can’t have the monopoly on all things wedding In perpetuity. I say go for it If its really the best option.
Post # 8
What? You want to use the same venue as her? How inconsiderate of you! Don’t tell me you going to wear a white dress too like her? In fact, you probably shouldn’t even get married, because she is getting married. Obviously you are stealing her limelight by saying wedding vows to the person you love and wanting to have your own special day.
….Or maybe you deserve to have the wedding you want, because in theory it is about you and your Darling Husband.
Book it, and don’t even make a deal about it to her because it’s none of her business.
Post # 9
She gets the venue for her day, and her day only. If you love it, go for it! Also, you can make sure that everything goes smoothly and that you really love the wedding. Only mutual invited friends will know the difference, and there is quite a time gap.
Post # 10
Book it. It’s a year apart for goodness sake! She is being ridiculously unreasonable
Post # 11
I wouldn’t use the same venue as my friends or family, but that is just me.
If you love the venue, and it fits into your price range, do it!
Post # 12
@pips123: you and your Fiance should get married where you want to get married. She’s being unreasonable.
Post # 13
thank you for your comments it nice to get advice off people that aren’t in our social circle. We are still looking but that hotel is lovely for us, suits our families needs and within our price range. Its a very popular venue and i’ve been to a few weddings there. I have decided that if this venue is “the one” then i wont tell her or our mutual friends until months after her wedding as we still have a while to wait til ours. if we did marry at the same venue i would make sure our weddings were different in styles colours etc. because last thing i want is her comparing and getting upset.
thank you x
Post # 14
She needs to get over it (and herself)
Post # 15
Haha, personally I think that’s silly. Loads of people will be getting married there, it’s a wedding venue… I think if you’d decided that you liked it a lot after her wedding it would be different, but as it was a part of viewing venues then no, she doesn’t get to complain, unless she’s going to stand on the door of the hotel and tell every bride that’s viewing the place they can’t have it because she’s getting married there.
Post # 16
@pips123: go ahead and use it. Seriously some people are nuts.