(Closed) need advice

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
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  • Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    No problem. Use the same venue if you want.

    I think there is sometimes an issue with relatives using the same venue, because a lot of the guest list is the same. But with friends, there’s not much overlap of guests, so there is no reason for her to object. There is no limelight to steal.

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee

    I dont mean to sound harsh, but your friend doesn’t have a choice in the matter. It is up to you and your husband.

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Just wait until after her wedding to let her know you booked it. After the fact, I don’t think she will care. 

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    Use the venue! It will be over apart so no one will be thinking anything of it! And, your wedding themes, colours, dresses, decor, EVERYTHING will be different. And, like PP’s have said it is up to you and your FH, not her. She does not own the venue. It does not belong to her. I’m sure countless other couples have wed at the venue, so really she is stealing their limelight Wink Go for it! If she makes a fuss don’t let it bother you. Tell her that you want your wedding to be at the venue, it suits in with your planning and budget, and that you would appreciate her support. Good luck OP.

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

    Your friend is being a little bit of a bridezilla, no? she can’t have the monopoly on all things wedding In perpetuity. I say go for it If its really the best option.

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    What? You want to use the same venue as her? How inconsiderate of you! Don’t tell me you going to wear a white dress too like her? In fact, you probably shouldn’t even get married, because she is getting married. Obviously you are stealing her limelight by saying wedding vows to the person you love and wanting to have your own special day. 

    ….Or maybe you deserve to have the wedding you want, because in theory it is about you and your Darling Husband. 

    Book it, and don’t even make a deal about it to her because it’s none of her business.

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    She gets the venue for her day, and her day only. If you love it, go for it! Also, you can make sure that everything goes smoothly and that you really love the wedding. Only mutual invited friends will know the difference, and there is quite a time gap.

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Book it. It’s a year apart for goodness sake! She is being ridiculously unreasonable

    Post # 11
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I wouldn’t use the same venue as my friends or family, but that is just me.

    If you love the venue, and it fits into your price range, do it!

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee

    @pips123:  you and your Fiance should get married where you want to get married. She’s being unreasonable. 

    Post # 14
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    She needs to get over it (and herself)

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee

    Haha, personally I think that’s silly. Loads of people will be getting married there, it’s a wedding venue… I think if you’d decided that you liked it a lot after her wedding it would be different, but as it was a part of viewing venues then no, she doesn’t get to complain, unless she’s going to stand on the door of the hotel and tell every bride that’s viewing the place they can’t have it because she’s getting married there.

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    @pips123:  go ahead and use it. Seriously some people are nuts. 

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