Post # 1
I don’t have many close friends to talk to about this so I wonder if any of you lovely people could share your perspective on my situation. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 18 months and I’m 31. He’s lovely to me but I’m concerned that he isn’t interested in progressing things. When I brought up moving in together he said he didn’t want to rush things. I don’t want to wait forever if he is never going to commit but I’m scared to ask him directly about how long he needs. Is it too early to ask him about timelines of our relationship?
Post # 2
18 months is 1 year and a half, not too early for sure. Also you have every right to ask about it anytime you want. Maybe you’re afraid to come off as pushy, but don’t, think about what exact things you want to say and go ahead.
Post # 3
It’s not too early. Healthy relationships depend on communication. You should not be afraid to tell him what you’re thinking or ask him how he feels.
Post # 4
You have nothing to lose by having this conversation with him. Either you find out where his head is at in terms of moving the relationship forward, or you find out he’s the type of person who can’t handle direct and honest communication about important life steps. Either outcome will help you figure out the direction your relationship needs to go.
Post # 5
I agree with PP. Just ask him! Ask him what the timeline is and any stipulations are before moving in together. Does he want to be engaged, etc ? See how he responds and go from there!
Post # 6
It’s fine to further clarify where your relationship is heading to but just don’t push him too far to a state where he feels to commit is a mistake. Take your time to communicate and strengthen your relationship. Good things take time 🙂
Post # 7
It’s not too early, don’t worry about being pushy/nagging it’s just communicating.
I’m a firm believer in it’s not what you say it’s how you say it, so plan a little and go from there 😊
Post # 8
It’s not early. Personally I believe conversation of possibly moving in together is long over due. Should definitely ask and see where the relationship is headed before more time flies by and you’re relationship remains at a stand still.
Post # 9
If you’re close enough to be intimate with the man, you certainly should feel close enough to discuss anything, including the state of your relationship.
I’m scared to . . . is not a good look on anyone. Operating from a place of fear causes a lot of mistakes and miscommunication. What exactly are you scared of? That you won’t like what you hear? Fair enough. But, at least it will be out in the open, and whatever is going on can be dealt with.
If you do become permanent, this just the first of many conversations you will have about your relationship. Not all of them will be easy or comfortable.
Post # 10
I don’t think it is too early to have a conversation and at least that way you will know where you stand and if it is worth sticking around any longer.