Post # 1
So i really need some advice on what to do. I currently have a great job, I’ve only been there a year. I work part time. I have a 2 year old so it wouldn’t make sense financially for me to work full time right now and put her in daycare 5 days a week (cost of daycare is high and at the end of the week, I’d be bringing home less than I do now working part time). However, the department I am in is run so poorly, and there is so much bullshit and drama that goes on with co-workers (yes I know that is anywhere) but it interferes with my job, and I end up doing everyone’s work while they do nothing. It’s just a lot to explain and I won’t bore you with all that. But I have such anxiety going into work, that I’m literally in tears on my way to work almost every shift. It’s draining me and I want to quit so bad. HOWEVER, I am 17 weeks pregnant. I don’t think I will get hired anywhere else being pregnant. Any idea of what I should do? The stress and anxiety is getting to me horribly and I’ve never had anxiety over anything before.
Post # 2
luckylucy1986 : Do you have a partner who is willing and able to support you? There’s not enough in this post for us to understand what your options are. If you’re on your own taking care of a child and with another on the way, you can’t just quit your job, right? What are you considering?
Post # 3
I’m married, but I don’t want to just not work. I enjoy working. So my only options are to stay at my place of employment and somehow deal with this anxiety or find another job if possible. But my issue is I really don’t think I will get hired at a new place being pregnant. But it’s also not a healthy work environment where I am now.
Post # 4
Well, you don’t know if you would get hired until you look and try. And legally, you can’t be discriminated against due to your pregnancy (in the U.S. at least).
What’s the point of just coming on the internet and asking for advice when you essentially have only three options (make your current workplace more tolerable, quit, or look for other work and quit) and you immediately shoot down two of them saying they won’t work? And as for saying you don’t think you will get hired – You for sure won’t if you don’t bother looking, so you’ve made your own-self fulfilling prophecy.
You’re pretty much left with stay working there or quit if you’re not willing to see if other people will hire you and you just told us you can’t/won’t quit because you want to work.
Try to stay out of drama. Show up and do your work. Talk to your supervisor if there are issues. In the meantime, you can look for other work. No law that you can’t look for other work while you already have a job.
Post # 5
luckylucy1986 : Thanks for the background info, that’s helpful for giving more relevent advice. You are correct that there is drama and BS everywhere. You say “I end up doing everyone’s work while they do nothing” — what if you stop doing other people’s work? Do your own to the best of your ability and if other people’s work suffers because of their issues, so be it.
Does your current job have any maternity benefits that you might lose out on if you leave? If not, I’d start sending resumes. But if so, I would probably deal with it for a few months.
Post # 6
How do you know you won’t get hired anywhere because you are pregnant? Looks like your shooting down the idea before you even try.
Post # 7
Can you describe more of what’s going on with the employees that gives you this much anxiety and stress? I’m wondering if you can keep your head down and away from coworkers more, request to work more remotely, have a legitimate issue to raise with HR, etc. It’s hard to tell with what info is given. It sounds like the job structure works really well for you, so hopefully there is a way to make it work.
You can always try interviewing and see where it leads. I don’t tend to think too highly of anti discrimination laws interviews, as its very easy for a company to give a different reason for not hiring, but there’s always a chance a good company will look at your qualifications and be supportive of your pregnancy.
Post # 8
Where are you located?
If you are in Canada/other countries with good mat leaves then I can see your new manager giving you a side eye when you say you are pregnant (after you get hired) because mat leave here is 12-18 months so ya.. I get how thats hard for the company, by the time you learn the ropes and get comfortable youll be leaving for a year.. while they can’t not hire you because of that.. expect that certian companies would use this against you when it comes to raises/promotions/responsibilties.. that’s just reality..
If you are in the US and have the 10 week or whatever mat leave most people take then thats a difference story youll be gone only like 3 months.. alot easier to have someone cover you for a short period and youll come back to your major responsibilities and they can certianly thing your qualifications are worth it
What work do you do?
Also, yes every company has drama/work politics but if its to the point that not only are you stressed you are doing other peoples work?? that means they are underperforming and not doing what they are paid to do.. soo why are you not escalating this? why are you for free doing other peoples jobs? end of day you need to stand up for yourself no one is going to do it for you..
Post # 9
annabananabee : I didn’t shoot down anything, I simply explained that I do not want to quit and NOT work. How is that shooting down any advice. The other bee asked my situation and I told her. I never said I was not willing to see if anywhere else will hire me. I simply stated I don’t think anywhere will. I just started sending out my resume so I don’t know yet. You seem to have a lot of assumptions so really you did not have to comment as I asked for advice. Ty
Post # 10
Daisy_Mae : the problem is I work in healthcare and cannot just not do their work, bc we are all essentially doing the same “job” but they aren’t working so I am left to do it all. And I can’t just not do it bc of the type of job it is, needs to get done asap. Thank you for your advice!
And yes every company has drama and issues, absolutely. But this is the worst place I have ever worked at in regards to how people are treated, what other employees do and say to their coworkers, and how poorly the department is ran, or so unorganized. Management does nothing to fix it and all of their hard working employees keep transferring out to other departments bc they’ve had enough. Transferring isn’t an option for me because I haven’t been there 2+ years which is policy.
Post # 11
Just look for something else. You’re not obligated to tell any employer that you are pregnant at time of application or hire. Sure, it’s a courtesy but it usually ends up with you getting burned (at least it does where I live).
Post # 12
luckylucy1986 : tbh i don’t think pregnancy is a big concern for employers. If they like you you’ll be back after leave right? So it’s a good investment!