Post # 1
Hey bees I need some advice. So my SO’s mom broke her leg a few months ago and won’t be able to go to work for another 4 months cause of physical therapy. She’s become very depressed sleeping all the time and making SO buy her booze once a week. Her husband works all the time and isn’t the best spouse. If my SO doesn’t buy her the booze she makes him feel guilty.
I can tell he’s having a hard time and isn’t for sure what to do. I’ve talked to my parents alittle bit about the situation and they’ve talked to him but he pretends nothing is wrong. I don’t know what I should do I feel stuck but I’m also concerned. My parents asked me if they should go over there and talk to her but I think that would make it worse. We just don’t want something to happen to her. Any suggestions?
Post # 3
Sadly all you can do is be there and listen to your SO. This is their family and they need to find a way to fix it on their own. Or atleast that has been my experience.
Post # 4
Your parents need to stay out of it, and to some degree, so do you – it’s painful to see someone’s downward spiral. But your intervention will likely just be seen as intrusiveness from her son’s girlfriend. The best that you can do is talk to your SO about your concerns; i.e., that not buying her alcohol will likely be doing her a favor, no matter how guilty she tries to make him feel. He can try suggesting other things – was she into any hobbies before? Can you get some hobby ideas from other women her age that you can pass along? Getting involved in something may help her find more productive ways to cope.