Need Advice: Alternative Wording to “Giving Away” Bride

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: What should be said after my Dad walks me to the end of the aisle?
    Nothing. We hug, I say "thanks", then he sits down. : (12 votes)
    57 %
    "Who supports this union?" : (5 votes)
    24 %
    Something else... : (4 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
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    3968 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    “Who presents this woman?” For me, I want it to be both my parents, they both raised me.

    Post # 4
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    3968 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    And no, we don’t NEED anyone’s support, but it’s nice that your family support it. It’s a time for them to show how proud they are of you and this big step you’re taking.

    Post # 6
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    315 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 1997

    I like …

    • Who supports this union? (We Do)

     

    • Family and Firends, Will you guide this couple and bless this union? (Yes, we will)

     

    • Who gives this couple their love and support during the lifetime of their marriage? (We do)

    I have many couples that like these versions better than the “Whom gives this Woman to be wed to this Man?”

     You can have only the parents answer or have all your guests answer.

    Post # 7
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    2854 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Oooh, I didn’t think about this. I like the suggestions.

    Post # 8
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    1271 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think that is not the time or place to honor people who traveled to the wedding.  Do that during the ceremony with a discussion of supporting the couple in their marriage, if you need to.  And let your dad do a toast/speech at the reception. 

    I am not a commodity to be given away.  Nor do I need approval of anyone to marry.  Nope. 

    Post # 9
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    3978 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I was just going to suggest present, somebody beat me to it.

    We didn’t say anything, but if you feel like you need to that’s nice wording.

    Post # 10
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    1340 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    @RevMic:  I personall love, “Who gives this couple their love and support during the lifetime of their marriage? (We do)” I hope you don’t mind that I’m going to steal this for our wedding. 😉

    Post # 11
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    5657 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    We didn’t have that part at all. When I got to the end of the aisle with my dad, we just hugged and then I went up to stand with my husband.

    It’s your wedding, do what you feel comfortable with.

    Post # 12
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    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We completely omitted that part. If you must include it, I would say “present”. But to me, it has the same meaning as “gives”, hence why we omitted it.

    Post # 14
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    1 posts
    Wannabee

    I found this on a website recently, I like it as it shows that i have chosen my own husband and am not being ‘given away’, but it also symbolises that my father approves and respects that i am moving on from his family to create my own:

    “who gives this woman to marry this man?” – celebrant

    “she gives herself, and does so with my blessing” – father

    Post # 15
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    1216 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    Our officiant had us stand and face our guests just before our vows and said a nice line about how these were the people who had been there for and would be there in the future, etc.  I think just after that she said something along the lines of, “Who presents this woman in marriage today?”  To which my dad was supposed to reply “Her mother and I do.”  (Funny note – dad missed his cue so I turned to him and kind of motioned. Can’t wait to see it on our video!)

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