- 5 years ago
I’m going back and forth in my head about this and I’d like some advice from an outside perspective since it seems like a bit of a sensitive issue.
My SO has purchased my ring and it’s in the process of being made. Today is our one year anniversary. I believe he’d planned to propose today, but I am 99% sure the ring isn’t ready. He has expressed some frustration to me about the proposal not being a surprise and he wants it to be his thing, grand gesture, a good story to tell our kids, etc.
For our anniversary, I bought him a claddagh ring to match mine. He’s said in the past he’d like one and I love the idea of him wearing one. I’m Irish, he’s Mexican-American. I thought it would be a nice and romantic anniversary gift and I would sort of double as an engagement gift (since I thought he would be proposing today).
So now my conundrum is whether or not I give him the claddagh ring tonight or wait until the day he proposes. My sister thinks it’s a really cute idea for me to give him the ring when he proposes, but the fact that she thinks it’s a great idea gives me a bit of pause. My boyfriend is liberal, but still very traditional when it comes to these things. I guess I would just worry that he might feel I was stealing his thunder since he’s made such a big deal out of the proposal being his thing and all.
The flip side of this is that I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t have gotten me a separate anniversary gift. I don;t want him to feel awkward because he didn’t get me a gift. But we both know he just shelled out for a very significant gift that’s on it’s way, so whatever. I’m not so worried about that.
What do you gals think? I feel like this is sensitive.