Post # 1
First sign: He and his friend got into a disagreement a few weeks back. During the disagreement the friend said something along the lines of “don’t forget what I have on you”. This caused my usually vocal boyfriend to shut up and walk inside. Later I asked what his friend meant by that and if he had cheated on me. This caused a huge fight and he basically said his friend knew what I was getting for my upcoming birthday and that I needed to drop it. Any questions I had would be answered after my birthday. Fast forward to last week when I had one too many glasses of wine and confessed I was terrified he had cheated because that would be the only thing I could think of that would make my boyfriend get so quiet and go inside like he did. He told me his friend knew the exact date he was going to propose.
Second sign: He is nervous and REALLY stressed. He blames it on work but I’ve NEVER seen him so stressed before.
Third sign: He has already told me what I’m getting for my birthday, but he’s not the type of person to do that. I’ve considered heavily that he is trying to trick me with this.
Finally, we have already planned to get married next year. He has said numerous times that I will have a ring by the end of this year. However, my mom swears up and down that he hasn’t come to talk to my dad yet. He is the type of person who would go to my dad first.
I know I shouldn’t expect it but at this point I’ve gotten my hopes up for a birthday proposal. I guess what I’m looking for is for honest opinions on this. Are the signs pointing to it or am I just reaching?
Post # 2
I don’t think you should get your hopes up.
Post # 4
Honestly just wait it out. You guys have spoken about it and you both seem to be on the same page. I wouldn’t expect too much in fear of being disapointed. Go with the flow and it will happen 🙂
Post # 5
He flat out told you that he’s discussed with his friends when he’s going to propose to you and you’ve already agreed on a wedding timeline. I don’t know how that points to getting your hopes up, unless he’s a compulsive liar, which doesn’t seem like the case.
Its coming! Just be patient.
Post # 6
Honestly, based on your WB history you have posted 6 threads in the last month about your impending engagement. You and your SO have already agreed to getting married in the next year so I would just sit back, relax and let him do his thing. I don’t think any of us can tell you for sure what he is planning and each of us have different stories and circumstances that led to our own proposals. Your SO has told you a proposal is in the works. Don’t over think it.
Post # 7
I highly doubt that’s what his friend was threatening him with
Post # 8
Why would you immediately jump to thinking that he was cheating? Does he have a history of it? Are there other signs of cheating?
Post # 9
Women put way too much emphasis on proposals.
Post # 11
Either way, he said that he’s going to propose by the end of the year, right? There aren’t very many months left, so it’s imminent anyway. Just wait it out.
Post # 12
A proposal is the least likely outcome to his friend threatening ‘don’t forget what I have on you’.
Post # 13
Yeah, I wouldn’t think engagement so much as….not good news.