(Closed) NEED ADVICE! birth control issues causing probs with FI

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Helper bee

If you have not had a child, an IUD is not a medically safe/approved choice.  I know that many women without children have an IUD implanted by the doctor, but if you go to the device provider’s website, you’ll see they are only approved for women who have had children.  As an attorney, I worked for a firmthat did nothing but IUD litigation (the IUD caused problems in women who were implanted who had not had a child and left them unable to have children).  Please please please do your research before getting an IUD if you have not had a child yet!

 

Can you chart? It’s a little more complicated (and involves some daily temp. taking), but it is a nice, natural way to avoid the most fertile days.  It’s not 100%, but it is better than nothing!  Withdrawal is also an option, especially when combined with charting.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Why not try switching out to different brands of condoms?

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@macbeth91512:  What I would do is get the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility and look into the FAM method. Once you start charting your cycles and reading your body, there are only around 7 days per cycle that you’d have to use condoms (or abstain). I just finished the book and it was amazing, and I cannot WAIT to get off the Pill (and not get knockered up).

That way, worst case scenario, at least the condoms are only a few days a month (or you could, y’know, do OTHER stuff on those days). Then again, if you were having trouble remembering birth control, charting might be a bit much! Read the book either way, though — it’s a-maze-ing.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

Try non latex condoms.  They are thinner than latex condoms but just as safe.  In my experience they provide more sensation.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think don’t stress yourself out about it, it just may take some time for him to get used too it again. I also second changing the brand, perhaps making sure the size is right, or getting a thin brand, before deciding to do other things. I do have one friend who had this issue with her man she end up using a I hate birthcontrol and don’t take it for the same reason as you ending up getting a diaphram

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I have the paraguard!  You can read my response about it in this thread http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/mirena-vs-implanon

It’s really not that scary at all, and you’ll never notice that something is “implanted” in your body.  For me, the side effects all subsided after 2 months, and now I’m all set for the next 12 years.  What’s not to love?  I say you go for it.  Not only do condoms suck, but they’re not real reliable either, and accidents happen.  With the paraguard, it’s just really hard to screw up.  I love being off hormones too.  I learned that I’m not actually a crier!  It was just the hormones that whole time!!! 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

@macbeth91512:  We have some condoms called ‘skyn’ here, which are quite thin but robust, and they feel as close to the ‘real deal’ as possible. And as a PP suggested, try looking around for some non-latex brands 🙂 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

Try Trojan Ultra-Thin. I think the box is a grey. My DH and I go back and forth between using condoms and not (I’m on the BC pill but we’re paranoid so we use condoms also during the most fertile part of my cycle). They are the only ones DH can use and still finish with. Hope that’s not TMI 😛

Post # 16
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Newbee

@macbeth91512:  I have the paraguard, and have never had children – the only warning my doctor gave me was about it being slightly more difficult/painful to insert. The day I got it, I experienced some bad cramping, but aside from that, nothing else really changed other than a slightly heavier period the first couple months. It’s different for everyone – I had a friend who loved it, but it wouldn’t stay in place; mine’s moved once, but it was pretty simple to verify that it was still in place to be effective (and this is the only issue I’ve experienced at all). 

I would really recommend going and talking to your OB/GYN about your different options, because everyone’s going to have a different story for every method!

On the condoms – try the Trojan thin ones (I think there’s two kinds?), they feel a bit closer to going without.

Good luck!

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