(Closed) Need Advice – Broken Off Engagement

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

Nope. You can’t really go from being engaged to dating. I would talk to a lawyer about your rights on the property, and start figuring out alternate housing. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

EarthyCrunchy:  I would visit a lawyer asap and find out what you can and should be doing to sell that property. 

Personally, I wouldn’t want to be with a man who wasn’t sure if he wanted to be with me. The time to figure that out happened before the engagement. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

EarthyCrunchy:  I’m not sure what timeline to give him, if I was in your situation. It would depend I think for me on whether he is second guessing the marriage or the actually being with me part. Did I think the relationship was able to be saved? Personally I would want an answer as to why he was suddenly feeling like this. But if he doesn’t give some kind of indication soon I would be done, it’s not fair on you and you’ve got no control on it.

As PP have said, I would get a lawyer on where you stand with the property. Better to be safe than sorry if it goes wrong.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

EarthyCrunchy:  even if you do continue working to save the relationship, I’d consider getting out of the condo. Of course it’s probably too soon to sell, but would you be able to rent it out and cover the mortgage?

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I would just end it.  If he’s having “doubts” you’re just extending the inevitable.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

ljm308:  Exactly. 

OP, it’s over. His excuses are bs, just cover for the fact that he doesn’t want to get married. The question is do you want to a slow, protracted end, or quick? I think that if you need couples counseling before marriage it’s probably not a good idea to get married. Sell the condo and move on. 

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