Need Advice career/relationship

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
984 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Um, what? Okay, first of all, his family FIRED you from the family business? Really? You were the receptionist, why would they fire you just because you don’t want to get licensed and move up? How does that affect anything? Why couldn’t they have waited for you to finish your degree, or at least until you’ve found another job? It sounds to me like they are bitter that you don’t want to work at the family business. And your husband is not only okay with this, he is “giving you” until the end of the month to find a job. But it’s HIS family that fired you. And then you possibly find a job for enough money, and he has a problem with you being a nanny?? What??? And then he expected you to take a class for him??? I’m sorry, I just can’t with this guy OR his family.

I’m sorry you’re going through this, it must be very tough. I couldn’t work full time AND go to school full time. I could barely stand working part time when I was going to school full time. I can’t believe your husband doesn’t understand how hard this is on you. And his family caused these difficulties for you, but your husband isn’t supportive of you at all and is expecting MORE from you. I’m sorry, bee, I just don’t think your husband or his family is coming off great here at all.

Post # 17
130 posts
Blushing bee

Wow, he sounds like a prize arsehole. I can’t believe he expected YOU to take his class! And the prestigiousness of your job title in more important to him than whether or not you succeed at your studies!!! What an entitled little shit! You need to start looking out for yourself because he sure isn’t going to. 

Post # 18
11259 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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teacher-bee-in-the-sea :  

Oh yeah. In my previous rant, I totally neglected the utter and total lack of integrity.  That’s pretty major.

I can only imagine, from what we know, that the husband’s family is quite comfortable with corrupt business practices.  I have to suspect they are dishonest in other aspects of life as well.

Post # 19
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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mvz22 :  He sounds like an ass. You need someone that will support you through school, not try to bring you down.  I get where you’re coming from. I worked 40 hours/week through college and it was horrendous, I had no free time whatsoever and like you, I make too much to have an entry level job. I know we’re from all around the world here, but if you are in the U.S. they have openings for a student pathways program job with the government which I’ve always thought is awesome because they work around your school schedule and you get paid leave and pretty good pay for a student job. Good luck

Post # 20
950 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have literally nothing else to offer than what the other ladies said.

Nannying is a honest day’s work. and he’s ashamed yet demanding you get a job?

I honestly cannot wrap my head around how HE is expecting YOU to take hsi classes!? Wrong, unethical, lazy, unrealistic… I could go on and on but wow. 

Post # 22
4207 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

Good for you for taking that job bee! I’m appalled at your husbands attitude… from being “embarrassed” by having a wife who’s a nanny (AND a full-time student… that shit is HARD, good for , you!) to expecting you to take his class for him, to ‘giving’ you a month to get a job… GROSS. He sounds like an obnoxious, entitled ass who lacks integrity and self-awareness. I hope you can get him to see the light and he can figure out how to be supportive of his wife. You deserve better than this!

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