Need Advice- Complaining bridesmaid

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 31
8800 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

morgie20 :  

Goodo, go with that relieved feeling . Don’t weaken , don’t change your mind  , be firm. No need to share too many details  with anyone else   ( except us  lol!)  Just ‘oh yes,  X couldn’t make it/ afford it in the end , and I completely understood, so …Now  how is your poor  dog’s paw doing  ?

Post # 33
40 posts
  • Wedding: March 2015

skunktastic :  I completely agree! If you think she will be complaining the whole wedding day or are worried about how she will present her self, i would just cut her out and end the friendship. You don’t want or NEED a Debby Downer on your wedding day! She seems like a horrible friend to have anyway and you seem to be over the friendship.


i would just have a chat with her.  If its too much of a financial struggle, suggest she not be a Bridesmaid or Best Man and come as just a guest.  Or tell her that its totally okay if she cant make it at all and there is “no hurt feelings” if she cant attend.

Post # 34
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

She doesn’t sound like a good bridesmaid.  Ask her to step down.  Make it all about you understanding her concerns.  LOL.  She needs to shut up or give it up.

Post # 35
1 posts


morgie20 :  Girl, i feel you on that but my thing is don’t do things to others that you wouldnt want other to do to you. someday she will be a bride and whatever goes around comes around. Stay positive and if you aren’t feeling the girl anymore than just drop her you don’t need that negative vibes on you I hope you have a great wedding! and good luck im dealing with some of those people too in my wedding party but i just have to think of the great time me and my fiance will have. think about that. 

Post # 36
2742 posts
Sugar bee

I’m sorry she, WHAT? who the hell goes around flashing people, let alone other people’s boyfriends. Not just once, but enough times that you’ve REPEATEDLY had to ask her not to? That is…. just.. no. 

Ask her not to be a bridesmaid. I suspect that this issue is not going to go away otherwise, and that more will come up. Plus then you don’t have to worry about a bridesmaid getting her tits out at your wedding. 

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