- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
My only advice to you is to do the inviting. Ask Jess a few days ahead of time to go out with you for lunch, and then you don’t have to deal with Brittany.
I agree, maybe you and Jess should have your own lunch dates and then you don’t have to worry about Brittany because the two of them will go out on other days.
I would maybe just go out with them less. If your friend asks why, then tell her. I had a coworker who invited me to lunch with him and his lunch buddy, another girl worker (the usual lunch group). That first lunch was awkward! She must have hated having me there because she sat at another table…ALONE! When we got back to the office, she told him not to go to lunch with her again. It was my first week at the job! She still doesn’t like me now…but I just don’t really care. :p
Yeah girl coworkers are weird about lunch. It’s like high school all over again. My advice would be to retreat a little, do your own thing for lunch and every once in a while or only when Brittany isn’t around go to lunch with your friend Jess. Use the excuse that you’re busy. It will only help you in your career too, because managers dont like to see employees cliquing together like that. Plus if something comes up at work you won’t be so tied down to lunch plans, you’ll have more flexibilitly.
I think you should leave a rotten egg in Brittany’s desk drawer.
I would take the opposite approach and invite Brittany to go to lunch with me without Jessica.
She may feel like you interfered with the “friend” she had at work when you started to work there too. Who knows? Maybe she doesn’t have many girlfriends outside of work.
I would clue Jessica in that I was going to ask Brittany out for lunch so Jessica could plan ahead and come up with some excuse why she couldn’t go.
Maybe if you and Brittany get to know each other , you will find you actually enjoy each other’s company.
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