(Closed) Need advice – Don’t want to step on toes – Steal Attention away

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
119 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Depending on how your sister is, she might get upset and feel like you’re trying to steal the attention if you send them out right away, when all you’re really doing is letting people know about your wedding too! If you really want to send them out ASAP then I’d talk to your sister about it to make sure shes comfortable with it, and that it won’t offend her. If she doesn’t care, go for it! If she’s upset wait until the week after her’s and send them out.

Post # 4
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t think Save the Dates are a big deal….the people are all likely know that you are engaged anyways, right? If you send out Save the Dates, you’ll probably have less people coming up to you and asking you about YOUR wedding. I think that would be more of an attention stealer. This way they already know when it is 

Post # 5
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I say wait. He wedding is ony 3 weeks away – send them out right around her wedding so they get there a few days after her wedding.

And you can wait 3 weeks to send out save the dates.

Post # 6
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

As a wedding guest, I like to get save the dates. And I like to get them as early as possible. I like being able to put those big events in my calender. 

However, some brides would feel that you are stepping on their toes. 

Though if you have them ready to go, I don’t think waiting two-three weeks matters much if it’s not a destination or holiday. A lot of people don’t send them at all. 

It might be easier to wait, less chance for potential drama. Have them ready and mail them the next day!

Post # 7
631 posts
Busy bee

I say wait.  Three weeks won’t make a big difference and I bet your sister would really appreciate it.



Post # 8
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I would try and talk to your sister first, and clarify that you aren’t trying to step on her toes or take attention away from her BUT:

with only 5 months to go I think you need to send the STD’s out, especially if you are planning on having anyone travelling to the wedding. It may be prudent to get these STD’s out the door before your sisters wedding so that people who may have to travel TWICE can budget accordingly; go with the cheaper hotel so they can make it to yours, etc. As a broke person, knowing sooner rather than later can really help me to save up so that I can not only attend, but get you some good loot, too

Post # 9
2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

How about asking your sister? If you don’t want to ask your sister then just wait to send them after her wedding. You also have the choice of not sending one at all since in July or so I assume you will be sending out your invitations. I think you have a few choices here. No matter which one you choose it will work out. Good Luck!

Post # 10
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Just ask your sister.  She’d appreciate your concern and then you’d have an answer about what to do straight from the source!

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