- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Hi Ladies, I had a bit of a disaster of a time trying to attend a fairly good friend’s wedding today, and could really do with some advice on what I should do or say to her about everything.
I was attending the wedding by myself as my husband had a prior event he had to go to out of town. The wedding was held at a venue approximately a little more than an hour away and I do not drive, so arranged to travel with another married couple who are friends of ours. They were driving as they have children and therefore were coming home the same night, whereas most others booked accommodation to stay in the vicinity of the venue. Long story short, there was a misunderstanding about how long it would take us to reach the venue (on their end, I always knew it would be a decent drive) and a communication problem with their babysitter about what time she was needed, so we were extremely late leaving. Then we got lost on the way.
We got to the venue 45 minutes after the start time on the invitation just in time to see them sign the register, but to make matters far far worse, when we turned into the venue the ceremony was taking place right next to where we had to park on the gravel. All the guests turned and glared at us – it was just horrifying. I asked another friend about whether we had actually interrupted the ceremony, and she seemed to think it was more just the guests who noticed, but still.
We congratulated the couple and they were very friendly and warm, as always. We didn’t get another chance to see them as they were very busy with photos and what not, but then the evening ran much slower than we expected, and we had to leave just after the speeches started in order to get back in time for the babysitter (which, of course, earned many more glares from the other guests). We managed to grab the bride’s attention and warn her we’d probably have to leave just before the speeches started, but didn’t get to say a proper goodbye.
Bees, I am so so so upset and embarrassed. I am so disappointed that we missed the ceremony (the most important part) but then also missed the speeches and first dance (we were still there for 6+ hours, in case you are wondering). I feel like I completely missed all of the actual wedding festivities for my good friend, and it just makes me really sad.
More importantly though, what do you think I should say to the bride? I don’t actually know if she realises we missed the ceremony and don’t want to make a big deal about it, but I also want her to know that I’m incredibly sorry and not at all blasé about it. I also feel like if I try to explain things, it’s just going to sound like I’m selling my friends who I travelled with down the river. This is such a happy time for her and I don’t want to create any drama, but I also want to show that I value our friendship (much more than my actions as one of the worst wedding guests ever would suggest). What would you do? Send some sort of email? Invite her out to lunch one day in a few weeks time and leave it in the interim? Just not mention any of it again?