(Closed) Need Advice for a May Wedding!!!

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it is too emotional.  She dosn’t want to cry and be sad.  I think you could do somehting like that some time before the wedding.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i think that sounds like a great idea actually. but can i ask you if her mother remarried? my father passed away when i was a kid and i want to do something in memory of him, but my mom remarried and i’m still trying to figure it out. but if not, especially since she’s already opting to honor him with the favors, i think it’ll be a touching moment between you and her. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Maybe a good idea to present the letter to her at the rehearsal dinner?  I agree, that might be a little too emotional for the wedding day.  I know I’d start ballin and who knows for how long!

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@hamachi: Hi date twin! I just wanted to offer a thought about honoring a parent who has passed after the living parent has remarried. My step-siblings’ mom passed away a few years before their dad met and married my mom. At my step-brother’s wedding, I thought they did a very nice rememberance of her. I’m paraphrasing, but the officiant said something about how in happy times we think of people we have loved that cannot be there, and how in this case a particularly special person, his mom, was especially missed. At that point, my stepbrother lit a candle for her that burned throughout the ceremony.

From the perspective of someone in the step-family, I thought this was touching and tasteful, while not putting a damper on the whole event or making my mom feel weird. A few tears were wiped away, and the ceremony moved on.

Anyway, just thought I’d share. Sorry for the loss of your dad, and good luck with these last few months of planning!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

 

@megs102:

such a lovely poem but yeah Cry

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think the fact that you guys are doing a charitable donation to MD and giving out green ribbons should be enough that it won’t be too sad, but I wouldn’t do much more other than maybe a moment of silence.  Our officiant is going to say (this is from our ceremony that she sent us):

“At this time we’d like to take a moment of silence to remember those who are not here with us. 

Even though they are not here physically, they are part of the foundation that makes Miss Pomapoo and Mr. Pomapoo the people they are today and we acknowledge their presence here with us in spirit. 

Lets now take a moment of silence to honor and hold in our hearts all those who have passed.

( Moment of Silence here)

Please cherish the memories of these friends and family and all others who live on in our hearts.

Amen.”

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